I don't know why ladies find me attractive

My Personality

Character is more impressive than beauty

                                                    Why do ladies feel safe with me?

Contrary to my view of my sexuality, ladies do find me attractive.

I never considred this possibilty, until July, 2025, when I added my profile to some mature dating apps, and was amazed by the reaction from ladies worldwide.

I have built a personality, that draws ladies to me, not only from a sexual view, but from the respect I show the ladies online. I do not push myself on a lady as some men do, I let the low of the chat draw us close. The subject of the chat is determined by the lady. I happy to chat about sex, if she chooses, but I don't take that direction.

Why do ladies feel safe with me?

 I am amazed so many ladies see me as attractive

I never considered myself attractive

A dynamic personality

I admit, I have flaws, but one is not vanity. Unlike some men, I don't flaunt what ladies say is my sex appeal. Though several mature lady admirers have said I am attractive to them, it is taking time for me to accept their views.

Several ladies across the continents have said they wish the could have sex with me.

For now, I am buliding a friendship with a lady in the UK. I am hoping my financial hardships this month won't stop us meeting

How do I see myself?

I never see myself as ladies see me

                                                                      Alan Place - Sex Object?

Part of my charm is I underestimate my appeal.

Whether as a writer, or lover, I constantly underestimate my appeal, is that a bad thing?

Another aspect of my charm is that I show a lady respect, this goes a long way. If a lady wishes to engage in sex chat, that is her choice. I don't object, within reason.

Ladies for some reason I cannot understand, find me attractive, only six years ago, I was approached by an attractive lady, who asked to meet me. At the time, I had to decline her offer, I was married.

I may give off a lost boy appeal, or it could be my introvert side which appeals to ladies, who knows? All I know is ladies see me as attractive.

Alan Place - The Dinosaur

 Why do ladies feel safe with me?

Ladies on Twitter

Yesterday, I surprised an attractive young lady on WhatsApp, she was suprised that unlike many men we'd been chatting for days, and I hadn't asked for a nude photograph, why would I?

I don'y object if a lady wishes to send one, but I never ask for them, to me, that is the lady's choice.

I am not denying I wondered how she would look undressed, that is natural, but one of the reasons ladies feel safe chatting to me is they know I wouldn't ask them to something that made them feel uncomfortable

I am aware of my attraction to ladies

 Alan Place - Sex Object?

                                             Why do ladies feel safe with me?

Ladies feel safe with me, mainly because I don't ask for sexy photos, I don't pushy my "apparent" sex appeal, and I show respect to their wishes.

The title could be read two ways, depending on how well you think you know me.

At first glance, the title could be read as arrogance, I could be saying I am attractive to ladies, as I have known for years. However, to those who do know me, or read the blog, the title has another meaning. It is only since my wife died, a year ago, that I have come to the conclusion ladies find me attrative, as seen by the numerous requests from ladies on SoulmateMeets, which is where I met my friend, Svitlana,

Though I had many mature lady friends online, I never connected with any as strongly as I have with Svitlana, from our first contact we knew we were meant for each other.

Why do ladies feel safe with me?

 I treat people with respect

Respect to me is not always forthcoming

When I begin a chat, whether on Facebook, Twitter, or WhatsApp, I treat people with the respect I expect in return.

The respect is not always returned, at times I have been offended, and that takes a lot for me; especially when the rudeness is at the beginning of the chat.

Last year, I had two coloured young ladies expecting me to want to go out with as they were young, coloured, and had large breasts. They had no idea what I liked, but assumed, wrongly, I was into large breasts and bottoms. Large breasts, within reason, are attrractive to me, but these were oversize, and turned me off.

I have nothing against, colour, race, or religion as long as the lady is respectful to me.

I have been told ladies prefer chatting to me as I don't force myself on them. and never expect a lady online is looking for no more than a pleasant chat.