What lies hidden?

 It could be concussion

Mature Dating

Meeting Svitlana

My friend, Svitlana who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire is genuinely concerned about the aftermath of my accident, one of the first things she asks each night is how am I feeling, and do I feel anything is happening?

The person whose action caused the accident, asks how I feel, but her question is not about my health, but about my ability to get another Apple pay card for her, so she can send me some money I am owed. 

I have noticed something odd since the accident, I get the feeling I am wearing my spectacles, when I know I am not, It is as though the pressure is constant, probably from my broken nose

Golden girls

 Ladies over 50

Mature Ladies

Seductive and enticing

A mature lady who knows she can be alluring, without exposing too much openly, is far more seductive to me, than a lady who is willing to expose all of herself at once. That was my issue with the dating app, Granny Site UK, many of theladies were attractive, but seeing ladies with their legs wide open is a turn-off for me.

The lady on here is a lady I chatted to when she became a singeer, her name is Janey Kirk, she has her show on Scottish tv

Lost in Space

 Sex with a Granny

Alan Place - Lover

Grandfather I'd like to F##K

Over the last two months, since I added my profile to two mature dating apps, I have had many ladies, both young, and mature, asking to meet me. Some ladies have offered to have sex with me.

I have formed a relationship with a lady who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire, and though I will be out of touch over the weekend, she knows I am not ignoring her, other ladies.

I am a one-lady man, and Svitlana is that lady to me.

Are ladies on Dating Apps paid by the site?

 Mature Lady

Granny

Sex with a Granny

I can't help feeling tha ladies on the Dating Apps I use are paid by the site.

My friend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire, always seems to have an endless balance to chat, while I need to limit myself to an hour a day. Ihave tried to ask her to leave the app, so we can chat longer, but she keeps baulking on the idea, which fuels my thoughts she is paid by the site,

I am popular with Ladies of Charming Talks

 Mature Dating

The Exclusive Lover

An Exclusive Friend

Svitlana

Despite the appeal I appear to generate among ladies on the dating app Charming Talks, I have eyes only for my friend from the Ukraine, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

Svitlana and I hit it off from the get go. Some of our chats involve sex chats, today's has been more about my upcoming neck opeartion to remove a lipoma.

Though I have over 60 ladies wishing to chat to me, I am only interested in Svitlana, most of the ladies live either in the USA, or the Far East

Another reason why I don't chat to the ladies is many are younger than my daughters, while some men find this a turn-on, I am not one of those. I prefer a lady closer to my age, from the 56 to 78.

Peter Lorre

 Robert Mitchum

Hollywood Mysteries

Noir

For most of my life, I considered myself like the roles Peter Lorre played in Hollywood, the mysterious outsider. Since July that has changed, now I consider myself more like Robert Mitchum, deep and mysterious.

The reason for the change is I added my profile to two mature dating apps, and found ladies find me attractive, I wasn't looking for romance, but it found me

I don't know why ladies find me attractive

My Personality

Character is more impressive than beauty

                                                    Why do ladies feel safe with me?

Contrary to my view of my sexuality, ladies do find me attractive.

I never considred this possibilty, until July, 2025, when I added my profile to some mature dating apps, and was amazed by the reaction from ladies worldwide.

I have built a personality, that draws ladies to me, not only from a sexual view, but from the respect I show the ladies online. I do not push myself on a lady as some men do, I let the low of the chat draw us close. The subject of the chat is determined by the lady. I happy to chat about sex, if she chooses, but I don't take that direction.

The outlook appears good

Oxfordshire

The Oxfordshire Romance

A  new Romance blooms in Tropico

Despite my reservations, mainly about my self-esteem, Svitlana is determined to make our online friendship into a relationship. I don't try to say no, but I do tell her about my limitations.

I would like nothing more than for our relationship to bloom, as we both have a sexual context for our future meetings planned.

I never imagined anything like this would happen, when I added my details to two dating apps, I had no wish, other than to get an honest opinion of how mature ladies saw me. After the Pamela Olsted incident, I put all thoughts of a relationship out of my mind, until Svitlana contacted me. It was she who made the moves, something I find arousing

Have I missed chatting to Pamela aka Clara?

Pamela Olsted 

Something good from my time with Clara

Svitlana

It has been a month since I stopped chatting to a lady who "claimed" to live in Whitchurch, Bristol, not far from where I am in Hartcliffe.

I had long considered her a scammer, at least once a month, she'd ask for money for "car repairs," then there was bus money.

The answer to the question is No, I do not miss chatting to the lady.

The best thing which came from that time is I added my profile to two mature dating apps, and the lady above, who lives in Oxfordshire, contacted me.

Svitlana and I hope to turn our online friendship into the relationship that the other lady "claimed" to want.

Online Chat rooms

The Dangers of being an Introvert 

I never considered myself attractive

I never see myself as ladies see me

The main risk of being an introvert like me is you have to rely on online chat rooms to make contact, as I found out with Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent, this can leave you vulnerable to scammers. Most people online are genuine I have found out.

My problem was until last month, July 2026, I never considered myself as attractive to ladies, adding my profile to two mature dating apps changed my view, if not my outlook of myself. I am still unsure of my appeal

What is my allure?

 The Allure of Alan

Sex with Alan

Would I consider sex with a young lady?

Last month proved to be an eye-opener for me.

All my life, I considered myself unattractive to the ladies, last month crashed that allusion.

Whether it was because I was new to the mature dating scene, or there was genuine interest in me, I had many mature ladies asking to meet me. Several openly said they wished to have sex with me. I have also had many offers from young girls, young enough to be my daughter, while some men would find that a turn-on, I don't.

I have only eyes for one lady, my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

What are my plans?

Has my popularity on Mature Dating sites changed my decisions?

The rise of Alanism

Romance in Didcot

My popularity on dating sites last month has not changed how I see myself. I cannot understand why mature ladies find me attractive?

My immediate plan is to get my finances settled, I can do this by limiting my online chat to my friend, Svitlana, in Oxfordshire.

Once I have achieved this, I can think about arranging a meeting in Didcot, to see if we can turn our friendship into a relationship that will last.

The meeting won't be happening for several weeks as Svitlana has a holiday booked to return home to the Ukraine this month. I would like to meet her before my birthday in October, but it is the lady's choice when she feels ready

Dynamite!!

 Am I too hot to handle?

An evening with Svitlana

She's in love with you

I don't know what, if anything, I expected when I added a profile to a mature dating site. I did it to clear something up in my mind, that had plagued me since my teens, were girls / ladies attracted to me? It wasn't vanity which was the question, I wanted honest opinions from ladies.

The replies I got back astounded me, several ladies online made sexual advances to me. I don't find ladies chatting about sex off-putting, usually, I usually find it arousing to know a lady feels free to chat about what she likes. However, one lady I chatted to in France was too explicit for my liking.

My friend above, and I, hit it off well once we got chatting, we are about the same age, Svitlana is 5 years older than me.

Alan Place - Recluse

 Would I be missed?

Could I be tempted from Svitlana?

                                                        Mature Dating Apps

Until this afternoon, I would have said it would take a lot for me not to want to be with my friend, Svitlana, things have changed. I don't know if she does find me attractive, or if she's playing me to get money for subscription site.

I am prepared for NOT to turn up, when we arrange a meeting, if that happens, I can still enjoy the day as I can vist Wallingford Castle.

The best way to know if a person is genuine is to go out, and meet people, for an introvert like me, that is extremely hard. I thought myself unattractive, then the ladies online said I was wrong, now I find they may have said that to boost their pay from sites.

The True Path of Romance

 SoulmateMeets

SoulmateMeets is the worst site

                                  I am who I appear to be online

For weeks, I have had doubts about SoulmateMeets, and my thoughts were cemented by reviews on Trustpilot, SoulmateMeets is the worst app for mature dating. It is no more than a front to get your money, the possibility of a real connection is next-to-nothing. One person said the best way to start a romance, is to get out there. That lets me out, I am paranoid insecure about my appeal to ladies, and the last month destroyed any hopes, now I know I was being played.

I only have eyes for you

An exclusive friend

Alan Place - Exclusive Lover

                                             Alan Place - Exclusive friend

It could be understood that with my popular appeal in the Mature Dating scene, I could have several relationships, but that is not me.

I am only interested in meeting Svitlana, my friend in Oxfordshire. Svitlana wasn't the first lady who contacted me, she is the first in the UK, most of the others are either in Asia, the USA, or South America. I won't deny, living in the UK is a BIG PLUS, but more important is we clicked from our opening chat.

Some men could have been put off, by a lady who isn't worried about expressing her sexual desires, but within reason, I find it very arousing.

Charming Talks

 Everyone wants to be my enemy

Mature Dating Apps

Svitlana asked for a romantic date

I joined Charming Talks as I was concerned my friend, Svitlana, was certain I didn't want to chat to her, as I'd been out of touch for days. The reason is I am going through a cash shortage this month, and need to ration my outlay.  There is a large difference between harming Talks and SoulMateMeets where we first chatted. CT gives you chat gems each day, so you can keep in touch, even if only for a few minutes.

Svitlana and I have come to the conclusion we are meant for each other, which is why I am exclusive to her.

I am taking my profile offline

 A Turning Point for me

Meeting Svitlana

Romance in Didcot

I can thank Pamela Olsted for one thing, if she hadn't made me question how mature ladies see me, I wouldn't have come in contact with my beautiful friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

Our friendship is growing strong, and I am in favour of Svitlana's idea of turning it into a romantic relationship soon.

For this reason, I decuded to delete my profile from a mature dating app we made first contact on. My decision will upset several mature lady friends I made, but our connection was never as mine is with Svitlana, and they are in the EU, USA,  and South America, not the UK.

It isn't only that Svitlana lives in an area I can get to that forged our link, we got on well from the start.

Mature Dating

Sexual Encounters

Romance in Didcot

Sex with Alan

After a tense weekend, when I thought my friendship, with a mature lady in Didcot, was over. Svitlana and I have decided we are meant for each other.

I had chats with other ladies on the dating app, but none meant as much as Svitlana, we clicked from the get-go. I have no objections to ladies chatting about sex, as many on the site SoulmateMeets, did with me. 

Like all things, there was to be a limit, one lady in France was so explicit it would have out me off, if I'd been interested, which I wasn't. She kept going on about going to the "next stage," when I hadn't had any reaction to her; I did have several ladies offer to meet for sex, but only Svitlana means something to me.

Alan Place - Sex Object?

Alan's sex blog

This is funny

Blogs on Sex

The humour is ironic, I wrote a blog about a sexual encounter, over a decade ago, which is still my most read piece of writing.

I can write stories which apparently arouse ladies. Apparently, my appearance this month, on the mature dating scene has caused mass appeal for me, with several mature ladies asking to have sex with me.

The irony is, I haven't had sex for 16 years, and it doesn't look like I will again