Not all chats are about sex

 The #Mature tag

Do I find mature ladies talking about sex off-putting?

While several of my mature lady friends online like to chat about sex, several try to coax me to have sex with them. If I wasn't building a relationship with my friend Svitlana, I could be tempted.

Many chats do not include the desire for sex. I don't object to sex chat with a lady, if we have a solid connection.

Some of my friends can be very descriptive in their sexual desires, this is in itself a turn-on for me.

We chat about music, art, history, and travel to mention a few things

In discussion with Svitlana

Not all chats are about sex

A new direction

A Sailor's Love

Though our online chats include sex, some nights, Svitlana and I chat about our interests. Last night, among other topics, we shared stories about fishing, as our grandfathers were fishermen.

Svitlana's grandfather fished in the waters off the coast of the Ukraine, while mine fished in the North Sea, we also discussed the Crab Stick fraud. The so-called crab sticks, contain NO crab, having tasted crab I could tell that. They are made from Pollack, a fish in the Cod family found off the coast of New Foundland.

My romance - A Sailor's Love - is a modern romance with elements of spirituality, romance, and environmental concerns about the erosion of the coast.

The south coast of the UK is getting smaller, the coast is made from chalk, and over time, it has been eroded. One developer started to build a hotel near the coast, only to find the site was undermined by caves

My sex appeal

 Hunted or Haunted?

I don't know why

The time has come, I think, to attempt to clarify my sex appeal.

This will be my outlook on what is happening, as I have little contact with many of the ladies who see me as attractive.

From lady friends I used to have, in ages past, certain trends appeared in our chats. It isn't always about physical attraction, I have never considered myself attractive to ladies.

The most common trend in the comments are I respect the ladies. Unlike many men, I see a lady online as a lady looking for someone to talk to, not as a target for a sex chat. If the lady wishes to talk about sex, that is her choice.

I have been told, I have a gentle personality, and I am pleasant to talk to. I built what popularity I have on being a nice person, not on seeing myself as a he-man type. Looks can change, the person usually stays, there are exceptions to all rules.

I have never cosidered cosmetic surgery, even before I knew of my genetic flaws, I discounted the idea. The only thing I would have liked is black hair.

Since joining two Mature Dating apps last month, I have been overwhelmed by the number of mature ladies who find me attractive. I am both delighted, and a little scared. I joined the sites to find out if ladies found me attractive, end of the story, I never thought of going further. I have a friend in Oxfordshire who is adamant she wishes to meet me soon

The Eclipse of Alan

                                              Ruby Wedding Anniversary

Happy Anniversary

Would I re-marry?

This weekend should have been a joyous family occasion, my Ruby Wedding Anniversary, 40 years. However, my wife died in January, 2025, so this will be my second anniversary without her 😢😢. 

She would have wished me to go on with my life, and not mourn her for all the time I have left. The children have said they have no objection to me having another lady friend, they know no lady can replace my lovely Linda.

I may go offline for the weekend to mourn the day.

I think I may have found another lady friend, or to be exact, Svitlana found me, as I wasn't after romance at the time she contacted me on SoulmateMeets.

I added my profile to the site, to see if ladies liked me, as I never saw myself as attractive to them. The response was amazing, whethe it was because I was new to the site, or genuine interest in me, I was deluged by requests from mature ladies asking to meet me, and several expressed a desire to have sex with me.

Despite hundreds of requests, the lady I am interested in is Svitlana. We get on well during our limited chats on Charming Talks, and are looking to meeting soon. I hadn't thought of re-marrying, but if Svitlana asked, it is something to talk about