Briefs Encounter

 A sleepover

All I Desire

Svitlana's dedication

This lady is not Svitlana.

Svitlana and I have discussed what we are seeking in our relationship.

The main things are love, and a feeling of companionship, at some time, I don't doubt sex will come into the equation, she has asked about me staying the night.

Staying overnight will be a good idea, as it would give us a more relaxed day, as we won't need worry about me getting the train back to Bristol from Didcot. It doesn't cost a lot more to get the open return, than a day return

My Angel

 Romance in Didcot

An evening with Svitlana

To my darling Linda

While no lady will replace my late wife, Linda, totally in my heart. The lady I am trying to build a relationship with, Svitlana, has become the angel in my life.

Our friendship has been dominated in an ongoing scam I got involved in several months ago, which limits, severly, how long I can chat online with Svitlana.

Even with this restriction, Svitlana is dedicated to being the lady in my life.

Svitlana

I have no idea what I did to deserve the love of such a beautiful lady from Ukraine, and I cannot understand either why she has no male companion, or what she sees in me to keep her adamant we are meant for each other.

Svitlana is the only lady for me

 One-lady man

You're the one I want

Svitlana

Since we began our online chat,Svitlana, my friend in Didcot, Oxfordshire, is the only lady I have been interested in meeting. I have many offers from ladies to meet, and almost as many to have sex.

It isn't only because she is in the UK which makes her my choice, we hit it off from the start, we are ideal for each other.

I was a palooka

 I have moved on

Svitlana's Dedication

Lupe Velez

In the Lupe Velez film, the Palooka (fall guy) is a man who thinks he is a champion boxer, without realising his manager, Jimmy Durante, fixed the fights to promote his find.

I turned out to be a palooka for a lady who "claimed" she lived in Bristol, and wanted a relationship with me. All she wanted was someone to pay her bills for several months.

I have finally put those days behind me, and I look forward to a steady relationship with my friend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire

I am desired

 Romance in Didcot

Meeting Svitlana

She's in love with you

I have ladies online who class as their favourite, the only lady I am interested in is my friend,Svitlana, who lives in Didcot in Oxfordshire.

From the get-go we got on well, even if she was a little enthsiastic about her sex chat, but that is nothing I worry about. I find a lady who knows what she likes, and isn't afraid to ask, arousing.

There was one lady in France I found off-putting, she was too descriptive for my liking, and I wasn't really interested in her besides that,

Reckless

 Romance in Didcot

The Oxfordshire Romance

I have moved on

I could be classed as reckless, I started a friendship with a lady online, within days of ending another friendship. 

My problem is being an introvert, making contact in person is impossile, mainly because until July, I thought i was unattractive. The two ladies are very different were Svitlana is kind, generous, and caring about us, all Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent wanted was to scam me.

The truth is I was over Pamela months before I ended the friendship, she had been telling lies for months, once or twice, I can forgive, but for months is beyond forgiveness.

This film with Wiliam Powell, and his wife, Jean Harlow will be only the second film I have seen with Rosalind Russell in.

Come up and see me sometime

 My Blonde Bombshell

Mae West

Meeting Svitlana

Svitlana hasn't used the quote from Mae West, but her request is plain to understand. She is very keen for us to begin our relationship, after becoming online friends in July.

What direction we go, within reason, is the lady's choice. We have briefly discussed the possibility of sex, an idea we are in agreement with making.

Svitlana's Dedication

 An evening with Svitlana

Romance in Didcot

Svitlana's worries

One of my friend's concerns is that if we don't have daily contact, I have had something happen to me. I explained sometines I cannot afford to buy credit on the site we use - Charming Talks - she has accepted the situation, and we are looking forward to our restricted chat being extended soon.

Her other concern is I will not think of her, when I am not chatting, I have asured her she is always on my mind, even when I am not chatting to her.

Despite my difficulties, at the moment, our love is growing by the day. Svitlana is willing to wait until things get easier for us.

Beauty or Honesty?

 Beauty is skin deep

Romance in Didcot

Honesty is the way forward

Over the years, I was approached by many girls / ladies I classed as beautiful, the problem is many of them were shallow as people, as is often the case when people rely on physical attraction.

Reading the blog, you may think I have a "thing" for blondes, this is not the case, my definition of attractive is based more on character, than beauty. Which is why I class Jane Russell and Ava Gardner as more attractive than Marilyn Munroe, Claudia Carinale, or Brigette Bardot.

I am not saying I don't see blondes as unattractive, far from it, among the blonde actressis i like are Honor Blackman, Catherine Deneuve, Barbara Sukowa, Eva Rose, and Ingrid Bergman.

The Eclipse of Alan

                                              Ruby Wedding Anniversary

Happy Anniversary

Would I re-marry?

August, 2025 should have been a joyous family occasion, my Ruby Wedding Anniversary, 40 years. However, my wife died in January, 2025, this will be my second anniversary without her 😢😢. 

She would have wished me to go on with my life, and not mourn her for all the time I have left. The children have said they have no objection to me having another lady friend, they know no lady can replace my lovely Linda.

I think I may have found another lady friend, or to be exact, Svitlana found me, as I wasn't after romance at the time she contacted me on SoulmateMeets.

I added my profile to the site, to see if ladies liked me, as I never saw myself as attractive to them. The response was amazing, whethe it was because I was new to the site, or genuine interest in me, I was deluged by requests from mature ladies asking to meet me, and several expressed a desire to have sex with me.

Despite hundreds of requests, the lady I am interested in is Svitlana. We get on well during our limited chats on Charming Talks, and are looking to meeting soon. Svitlana has mentioned the possibility of re-marrying, it is something to consider in the future, as we do get on well when we chat online.

Another part of my eclipse is the continuing after-effect of knowing scammer Pamela Olsted, her actions keep causing me to make cutbacks, and cause a continuous financial crisis.

Summer Holiday

 Svitlana's wish

What are my plans?

An evening with Svitlana

I hope to take a short break late this summer, my friend, Svitlana, is adamant she wants to meet, and wishes for me to sleepover, so we can relax without me worrying over catching the last train from Didcot back to Bristol. The extta fare is minimal, and we can share a second day, so it is a win-win for me.

I have moved on

 My lady friend in Oxfordshire

She's in love with you

The difference between Pamela and Svitlana

Earlier this evening, Pamela Olsted's sister tried to convince me she's been in hospital in Bristol, since I stopped chatting to her, several weeks aga. It didn't work, if she is, I am not concerned. She lied to me for months, why should I care what happens to her?

Looking back, my chats with Pamela Olsted always seemd one-sided, she would I agree with what I said, but rarely put thoughts forward to enhance the chat.

With my new friend, Svitlana, things are much different, we chat openly, with Svitlana contributing to the chat as much as responding to my comments. At times, she gets a litte ahead of where I see our friendship, that is because she wants a relationship. I want a relationship too, if we take things at the correct pace I feel we'll get our wish

What are my plans?

Has my popularity on Mature Dating sites changed my decisions?

The rise of Alanism

Romance in Didcot

My popularity on dating sites last month has not changed how I see myself. I cannot understand why mature ladies find me attractive?

My immediate plan is to get my finances settled, I can do this by limiting my online chat to my friend, Svitlana, in Oxfordshire.

Once I have achieved this, I can think about arranging a meeting in Didcot, to see if we can turn our friendship into a relationship that will last.

The meeting won't be happening for several weeks as Svitlana has a holiday booked to return home to the Ukraine this month. I would like to meet her before my birthday in October, but it is the lady's choice when she feels ready

I don't use SoulmateMeets

An exclusive friend

Romance in Didcot 

Charming Talks

I stopped using SoulmateMeets because I was getting engulfed by too many mature ladies, and I only wished to chat to my friend, Svitlana, who lives in Oxfordshire. We chat on Charming Talks,

One lady from SoulmateMeets has hunted me down again, she is the lady in France, I keep saying goes too far, and has expectations for a relationship I am not happy with.

I have no objection to ladies talking about sex, to me it is arousing, but this lady gets too explicit

Always on my mind

Another Life

 Cash Shortage

My lady friend in Oxfordshire

Owing to a cash shortage at this time of the month, I told my lady friend, Svitlana, though I may be out of touch for a day or two, she is always on my mind.

The situation this month will be easier, Svitlana is the lady I chat with, nobody else now.

Before we began chatting, I had resigned myself to not having a female companion for my final years, Svitlana has changed that, she has said she wishes to have a  long-term relationship with me

She's in love with you

Romance in Didcot

 The True Path of Romance

Meeting Svitlana

I am still unsure if the planned meeting in Didcot will happen, after a short chat today, I am a little more at ease than I have been for the last few days.

I am prepared for the day trip to be a visit to the area, if that is the case, I will still enjoy the day, as there are some places of interest for me to visit nearby.

I am taking my profile offline

 A Turning Point for me

Meeting Svitlana

Romance in Didcot

I can thank Pamela Olsted for one thing, if she hadn't made me question how mature ladies see me, I wouldn't have come in contact with my beautiful friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

Our friendship is growing strong, and I am in favour of Svitlana's idea of turning it into a romantic relationship soon.

For this reason, I decuded to delete my profile from a mature dating app we made first contact on. My decision will upset several mature lady friends I made, but our connection was never as mine is with Svitlana, and they are in the EU, USA,  and South America, not the UK.

It isn't only that Svitlana lives in an area I can get to that forged our link, we got on well from the start.

Mature Dating

Sexual Encounters

Romance in Didcot

Sex with Alan

After a tense weekend, when I thought my friendship, with a mature lady in Didcot, was over. Svitlana and I have decided we are meant for each other.

I had chats with other ladies on the dating app, but none meant as much as Svitlana, we clicked from the get-go. I have no objections to ladies chatting about sex, as many on the site SoulmateMeets, did with me. 

Like all things, there was to be a limit, one lady in France was so explicit it would have out me off, if I'd been interested, which I wasn't. She kept going on about going to the "next stage," when I hadn't had any reaction to her; I did have several ladies offer to meet for sex, but only Svitlana means something to me.

The law of Distraction

 Glamorous Granny

My lady in Oxfordshire

Beauty in many forms

To me a beautiful lady is a beautiful lady, no matter her age, race, or religion. I knew a young writer from Greece, several years ago, who was very attractive, and had a pleasnat attitude. I don't have a "type" of lady I see as beautiful.

Svitlana

The only thing that can turn a beauty into a bitch is a bad attitude. I met some attractive young ladies years ago, who because they knew they were desired, had an attitude which to put it politely, stank.

The lady in my life now my wife passed away is Svitlana, she is from Ukraine, but lives in Oxfordshire.

Svitlana has kept my mind off my financial issues for the last two months, as I fight to gain control, after being the victim of a scam last year

My Blonde Bombshell

 Svitlana 

Glamorous Granny

Svitlana may not be everyone's idea of a glamorous granny, but she is for me. We get on well, when I can afford to be online, and are forming what could turn a friendship into a relationship.

I don't object to her expressing her wishes for what she's like to do with the sexual aspect of our meeting, I find it arousing.

It makes it easier for me to please her, if I know what she likes to do, and her arousal is arousing for me.