Brief Encounters

 Dating a Granny

What is my allure?

Sex with Alan

I have had offers of friendship, and even sex, with several older ladies. I have no issue with dating an older lady, within reason, the lady in my life now my wife has passed away is Svitlana from Ukraine, she lives in Didcot.

Svitlana

Svitlana is four years older than I am, and we got on well from our first online chat, she and I are dedicated to moving our friendship into a relationship, once she has got back from holiday, and I have cleared my overdraft issues. At the present, I am limited to chatting for about an hour each night, and sometimes, I have to go offline for a day or two 😢😢.

Though I had many offers, until Svitlana, none meant anything to me, mainly because I couldn't see me meeting a lady who lives either in Asia, the USA, or South America. In 2009, I did fly to Canada, twice to meet a friend, but she paid for the flights, one of the reasons for my trips was she needed help sorting her house out, she died that December

What is my allure?

 The Allure of Alan

Sex with Alan

Would I consider sex with a young lady?

Last month proved to be an eye-opener for me.

All my life, I considered myself unattractive to the ladies, last month crashed that allusion.

Whether it was because I was new to the mature dating scene, or there was genuine interest in me, I had many mature ladies asking to meet me. Several openly said they wished to have sex with me. I have also had many offers from young girls, young enough to be my daughter, while some men would find that a turn-on, I don't.

I have only eyes for one lady, my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

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Romance in France

                                                                   Valentyna

                                      A Romance crossing Continents

The leader in the readers for today so far, is France.

I could out this down to the highly romantic posts I have been adding since I joined the mature dating arena, this month. My friend, Valentyna, lives in France, where I don't know as my cash shortage limits my time online this month.

My allure to the ladies knows no boundaries, I have admirers across the continents. My charm is relying on my personality, not my sex appeal.

TBH, I didn't consider myself attractive, until this month

Older Ladies

 The Allure of the Older Lady

                                                         Rani Mukerji

Rani Mukerji is a good example of a lady who has got more attrarive with age, my opinion. While I do find Asian ladies very attractive, there are some I don't like.

I do not have a type of lady I find attractive, or an area I prefer, to my a lady is attractive. I have Older Lady friends online from Spain, France, Ukraine, USA, China,UK, and Canada, to name a few countries.

The common denominator is I find them attrractive

I may get my wish to have sex with an older lady

 Would I consider sex with an older lady?

The Allure of the Older Lady

An older lady may not be as active as a young lady, that doesn't mean she can't enjoy sex as much. I had sex with two older ladies, years ago - not together - and I may possibly have sex again, as my friend, Svitlana is a little older than me.

Svitlana has made herself clear, she wishes to make love to me, we will see how we can fulfil her wishes when we meet, hopefully next month.

The allure of Alan

 Sex with an older man

                                                            Young ladies online

I don't make a point of having sex with ladies who are many years  younger than me. I have had sex with some young ladies, but they were only a few years younger than me.

I have been asked many times to have sex with young girls, but it isn't my thing. This is why I didn't accept the offer to be a Mature Model for OnlyFans

GILF

 Granny Dating

                                              The Allure of the Older Lady

Years ago, I had a friend in Canada, a few years younger than me, who became a granny. At the time, I would happily have made love to her, then things turned sour.

Marge got religion, then became a health freak. In short, she became a hypocrit. She'd go on about how Jesus will come to save us from our sins, and how evil the world has become.

WHOA!!! 

Hold your horses.

Let's run back through her life. Reading this, you would imagine she lives hand-to-mouth on the street, NOTHING could be further from the truth.

She and her husband live in a nice home in Bonneyville, Alberta, they have two cars, she works as a chef in the golf club they are members of. They have a 60-inch TV in the front room, the last I heard, she is selling her paintings, and the kicker is they have a three-person jacuzzi.

Hardly people to say the world is evil, when they have more luxuries than most people.

Mature Ladies

 Not for me

                                                                      50+ ladies

I may be considered old-fashioned, I am, on the Mature Dating scene there are many young, and attractive, ladies seeking older men for sex.

I appreciate that we are better lovers, as we are more considerate to our ladies, than young men, who think speed is everything. I appreciate the allure of an mature man is enticing for a young lady, and I can see why having a young lady as a lover is a big turn-on for many men.

The thought of going out with a young lady as young as my daughters (mid-30s) does nothing for me. I am interested in ladies in the age range of 50 to 80

A Vacation in Spain

 The Allure of the Older Lady

The Oxfordshire Romance

I have often considered Spain for a vacation, this month a lady who lives there contacted me via the Mature Dating App - soulmatemeets - if I wasn't trying to meet a lady in Oxfordshire, I may have tried to see her. Svetlana has all the qualities I look for in a lady, and she is interested in me

The Main Attraction

 The Allure of the Older Lady

Granny Site UK

One of my attractions to the ladies is I love a man who is willing to cook, and I enjoy cooking very much.

Cooking is a way for me to be imaginative, and do something positive in my life.

Among my qualities are compassion, understanding, and being respectful to the ladies, all of which are natural to me. I never had a dominant personality.

Ladies also appreciate that I get pleasure from arousing them, as much as being aroused by them. I am not all about sex, to me the sex is part of a three-part-programme which includes cuddles before and after making love

I lost my opportunity to have 7 virgins tonight.

 Mature ladies are nore attractive to me

The Allure of the Older Lady

Oh well, I insulted Allah, AGAIN 😝😝, I had a ham sandwhich for my tea tonight LOL.

This does raise the question, what would I want with a virgin, never mind seven, when I prefer an older lady as my lover?

Appearance over Performance

 Classical Music

YouTube

As I watch hours of Classical Music on YouTube, some things become apparent.

One of the biggest eye-catchers is that many of the female pianists from Asia, prefer low-cut dresses, to the more elegant and refined ladies of the West. I know it is a question for the person to answer, but it does ask the question, which is more important, the music or the lady's allure?

Another off putting thing, for me, occured during a Marta Algerich concert. One of the violinists had dyed his hair bright orange, that put me off immediately

A strange dynamic

 The Allure of the Older Lady

                                                         Sugar Daddy

With the walks I go on from where I live in Hartcliffe, to my friend, Clara, who lives in Whitchurch, Bristol, Clara comments (jokingly) that I look 21.

This raises an interesting situation for me.

While I fantasised about making love to an older lady, when the opportunity was reversed recently, I didn't consider being the object of being the subject of sexual fascination for young girls

A Happy Relationship

 The Allure of the Older Lady

In Praise of Older men

I notice a lot of Twitter posts about the age gap in a relationship, my view is if the people are happy to be together, let it be.

I am a mixed person, while I had a thing for older ladies, I am not happy dating a girl young enough to be my daughter, or a lady old enough to be my mother. This gives a 30-40 year age gap, so plenty of choice.

I know it is not considered Christian, but that is how I view same-sex relationships, they may not be for me, but I would rather see two people happy, than two people together because society demands they have to be the opposite gender.

In Praise of Older Women

 The Allure of the Older Lady

Secrets on Amazon

There is a line said by a minor character in my book, Secrets, which typifies my view of older ladies. The young man says "Are trees that have aged with time, not as beautiful as young saplings?"

Cinema is ageist with regards to ladies, once they get in their 40's, when many are at their prime, they get replaced. 

Mae West was at her best in her 40's, her last films, when she tried to maintain the glamour of her appeal were a disaster.

Some younger ladies, in my opinion, get better with age, Jenny Agutter is a good example of this

Are you interested in me?

 Pretty Woman

                                     The Allure of the Older Lady

My story for sale on Amazon, is a break from my usual genre area. This story has a political theme theme, laced with an adult LGBT+ scenario, and a possible series if it sells.

If I am to believe, which I don't believe, it got the interest of a man "claiming" to work for Netflix. I have said often, I can write better than some of the stories I saw on the channel, that is no idle boast. But, with no books published, or an agent to promote my work, the possibility of being noticed is slight, not impossible.

Though I have not considered the possibility of remarrying, I have not discounted the possibility either. The lady would need to be in her late-50's, at the youngest, and interested in me as a person, not only be attracted to me as a lover.

Author in Demand

The Allure of the Older Lady

                              More books raising interest

Again, I have been approached about the promotion of one of my books. This time the book is my Adult Romance set across Europe, the Middle East, and settling in India - Secrets - the book may upset some readers, I didn't intend the story to have LGBT+ themes, but it has some. The story ends with an open ending, if it sold, there is room to begin a series of stories.

As you see from the photo, the cover does NOT feature a young lady with little on the actress on the cover is from Belgium

I cannot understand my allure

 Ladies on Twitter

Alan Place - Sex Object?

I will never understand the allure I have among ladies of all ages on Twitter in the last quarter of 2025

Perhaps, that is my charm. As I never considered myself attractive to ladies, I never pushed myself, unlike some men, I rarely, if ever publish a photograph of myself not fuly clothed. The only ladies who seen me partially clothed are two close friends.

Does Rekha have the same issues as Greta Garbo had?

 Rekha

                                                   Sharmila Tagore

                                                         The Allure of the Older Lady

I can't help wondering if the Fashion Icon of Bollywood, Rekha, has the same issues that plagued the great Greta Garbo?

At the height of her popularity, Garbo walked away from Hollywood, she didn't want to her fans to see her age. Rekha had issues with her figure when she begam her film career, producers called her "frumpy, plain." These days she is rarely seen without impeccable clothing, and make-up. 

I can understand how she may feel, some ladies don't age well, while others such as Sharmila Tagore, Waheeda Rehman, and Mala Sihna keep their looks, my opinion. Others such as Helen Richardson have gained beauty, my opinion, in their later years

The Allure of the Older lady

 Only Fans

                         Young ladies online  

I have nothing against the young ladies who hope to get me to join Only Fans, some of them I find very attractive, as the young lady who stopped chatting on Twitter this afternoon is.

The issue is at my age, I would have preffered an older lady, not a girl in her 20's.     

Another factor is I would prefer the sex chat during a friendship, rather than on a sex site.    

At the moment, I am not seeking anothe relationship, my wife passed away a few months ago, and it would not be fair on another lady if I began a relationship as we were together for almost 40 years