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A Foreign Affair

Dating a Granny

Though my friend, Svitlana, appears genuinely in love with me, I cannot be sure she is who she says she is, as we live far apart. I am almost certain she is really in love with me, but only meeting her will kill my doubts.

She could also say the same for me, that is the problem with meeting a person online.

We have a deep understanding that we are the only people we chat with online, I didn't have any thoughts of meeting a mature lady when I added my profile to SoulmateMeets, then to Charming Talks, yet we get on well from our first online chat

I was popular with the ladies on SoulmateMeets

 Grannies Friend

The lady I want

Svitlana

From our first chat, it was clear Svitlana and I had the possibility of forming a lasting friendship, with the strong probability of it turning to a relationship of deep meaning.

I formed casual friendships with other grannies on SoulmateMeets, but most of those were of no substance. This trend continued with me to Charming Talks, where I have many ladies wishing to chat to me

A Suprise ending to 2026

 Meeting in Didcot

Action Stations !!!

Meeting Svitlana

Today will begin the end of my time in hell. In November, 2025, I was contacted on Twitter, and later via WhatsApp by a lady calling herself Clara Kent, she turned out to be scammer Pamela Olsted.

By various means, she convinced me she cared for me, when all she wanted was my money. I was for a short period, under the impression she lived near me in Bristol. I stayed in contact, to give her the opportunity to prove she lived here, but it was soon clear she didn't.

By July, 2026, I had put her out of my mind, and resigned myself to losing the money I sent her, despite her saying she would refund me at some time. In September, 2026, her sister said she would repay the money owed to me, today, I am hoping this will happen.

I can finally put Pamela, and her family, out of my mind, and concentrate on meeting my friend   Svitlana in Didcot, Oxfordshire. Svitlana and I made contact on SoulmateMeets, and have continued our friendship on Charming Talks, we got on well from our first chat.

On a more personal note, today I will be going into hospital to have a lump removed from my neck.

Are you looking for me?

Sex with an older man

Sex with Alan

The Night is Young

An exclusive friend

Each day, I get messages on the online chat saying "As soon as I come on the site, you are who I look for." I get the message from ladies in their early 40's to late 60's.

If I was the type, which I am not, I could easily "play-the-field," and have several sex meetings, but I only have eyes for Svitlana

The True Path of Romance

 SoulmateMeets

SoulmateMeets is the worst site

                                  I am who I appear to be online

For weeks, I have had doubts about SoulmateMeets, and my thoughts were cemented by reviews on Trustpilot, SoulmateMeets is the worst app for mature dating. It is no more than a front to get your money, the possibility of a real connection is next-to-nothing. One person said the best way to start a romance, is to get out there. That lets me out, I am paranoid insecure about my appeal to ladies, and the last month destroyed any hopes, now I know I was being played.

Absent without Leave

Would I be missed?

SoulMateMeets

Could I be tempted from Svitlana?

As far as we are concerned, there is only one way I could be tempted to leave Svitlana, if she chose to end our friendship, and she has said she has no plan to do that.

I expect several ladies on SoulmateMeets are wondering why I have gone A.W.O.L?

There are two main answers, Charming Talks offered free chat tokens for the first week, and I needed those as I was struggling to pay Soulmate, and needed to convince Svitlana I hadn't lost interest in her.

The other reason is I found some of the ladies unattractive personality wise, in particular a lady in France who was to explicit in her sex chat. Within reason, I find a lady who chooses to talk about sex arousing, this lady was adamant we should go to the "next stage," when I had made no comment on how I felt about our remote friendship.

Charming Talks

 Everyone wants to be my enemy

Mature Dating Apps

Svitlana asked for a romantic date

I joined Charming Talks as I was concerned my friend, Svitlana, was certain I didn't want to chat to her, as I'd been out of touch for days. The reason is I am going through a cash shortage this month, and need to ration my outlay.  There is a large difference between harming Talks and SoulMateMeets where we first chatted. CT gives you chat gems each day, so you can keep in touch, even if only for a few minutes.

Svitlana and I have come to the conclusion we are meant for each other, which is why I am exclusive to her.

A Turning Point for me

 Mature Dating

SoulmateMeets

Dating a Granny

One of my biggest shocks in recent months, came this month.

For months, Pamela Olsted had been saying she thought I was attractive, but I doubted her honesty - with good reason - so, this month, to find an honest view on how mature ladies saw me, I added my profile to a mature dating app. The results astounded me, as I never saw myself as attractive to ladies.

I have been deluged with requests to meet, and several offers of sex. For now, there is only one lady I wish to have sex with, my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot

Everyone wants to be my enemy

 Problems ahead

           Is the Friendship over?

I can sense a strain in our friendship caused by my cash shortage. Like other friends, Svitlana sees me on SoulmateMeets, then sees me vanish, as if I am playing games. I am not playing games, I can visit the site freely, but chatting costs money I don't have at the moment. 

If this confusion means she doesn't wish to meet, I can't blame her. She is a polite, attractive mature lady who deserves to be loved. I hope our friendship doesn't end before it has had a chance to grow

Would I be missed?

 SoulMateMeets

                                                                 Svitlana

                                                                  Svetlana

The rise of Alanism

I know two Female Admirers who would miss me if I failed to appear online for a long period. Svetlana, and Svitlana have shown they care about me, deeply. I get other ladies asking why I am offline, that is more because they wish to chat to me, than they care about me. Some get angry when I don't reply, even though I have explained my situation several times.

My Panties Obsession

My Panties collection

 Mature Lady

My Teen Fantasy was getting a look up girl's skirts to see their panties, until I was 24, that was as far as I got.

This situation hasn't changed, one of my big thrills is still seeing a lady's panties. 

Several of my fenale admirers have sent me photos of themselves in their underwear, these I am adding to a panties selection I am making

Today is Saturn's day

 Greek Gods

                                                                 Cash Shortage

It says a lot for my life, at the moment, though today is a lovely day, I wish it was tomorrow.The reason is  with my cash shortage, I am unable to connect with my mature lady friends on SoulmateMeets, and several are getting cross at me

No wonder I am hungry

 Alan Place - A Writer in time

                                               A Return to Bloging

I have been so busy chatting, and blogging, I forgot to have a meal, that isn't unusal for me.

Technically, I didn't stop blogging, but the Mature Dating app, SoulmateMeets, has given me a surge of energy to blog about the mature ladies who find me attractive.

I have had offers for sex from several v attractive ladies, if I wasn't building a relationship with my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, I could have accepted

An Extended Delay

 Concerned Friend

Granny Friend

My friend, Svitlana, was worried this weekend; as I was unable to chat to her for long, as I had a cash shortage issue, which has been cleared.

This is going to be a regular occurance as my bills and payments don't always come in at the same time. We will get used to this, I am hoping to get her on WhatsApp, so we can have longer chats.

I can't help wondering

 Anxious Friends

A Double Romance

I am not that type

With so many Mature Ladies, in various countries, wishing to meet me, and many requesting sex with me, running a double life would be possible, if hard.

However, that is not for me, for many reasons, I am not a lothario. I have no desires to run multiple lives, with several ladies. If I was, there are many glamorous grannies on SoulmateMeets I could meet. I am a one-lady man, though I have been offered relationships several times.

Apart from being a one-lady man, the issue of rest comes into play, at some point during multiple relationships I will need a time-out for myself

Anxious Friends

 SoulMateMeets

                                                                         Glamorous Granny

These beautiful ladies will be pleased to see my return to the Mature Dating app we chat on, shortly. Svetlana (top) is in Spain, and Svitlana is in the UK.

I do chat with other mature ladies on the app, but these are my main friends.

The Longest Day

 Dateline - Alan Place

                                                         Glamorous Granny

For some of my lady friends today will have been the Longest Day for them, last night, I said I couldn't afford to pay for the credits to chat on SoulmateMeets, until tomorrow. On hearing this, four ladies replied saying they couldn't wait for my return. Unfortunately, being a disabled pensioner, this is going to be a regular thing.

I don't see the threat

 Openness can be arousing

                                                  A different outlook

Some men see an assertive lady as a threat to their masculinity, I am not one of them.

I see a lady who kows what she wants, and isn't afraid to ask for it as arousing. The fact I am willing to attempt to be able to please the ladies, has made me several friends on SoulmateMeets. I keep being asked to meet ladies, and some have openly admitted they wish for sex with me. I never expected this reaction when I joined the app, I was only trying to find out if ladies see me as attractive, to settle a question in my mind.

I am still questioning whether my attraction is as "the new man on the block," or because of my gentle personality? As I always doubt myself, I think I'll leave that answer to the mature ladies I befriend

What have I caused?

Taking a break

                            Why do I appear to be off SoulmateMeets? 

Last night, I said I would be off SoulmateMeets until Monday, for two reasons, I don't have the money to chat for hours each night, and from time-to-time, I need a day off. 

Within minutes my friend, Svetlana, replied, "I miss you already." and my friend Svitlana replied, "I can't wait to hear from you again, love."

In a month, I have grown from an unkown on the site, to a beloved friend to mature ladies

My friend in Valencia

 Svetlana 

Barbra Streisand lookalike 

I don't chat with my friend, Svetlana, in Valencia because I think she looks like Barbra Streisand, a compliment she liked. Nor because she has nice breasts, I haven't told her that. After she contacted me on SoulmateMeets, I saw that when her is down it flows like waves on sand.

I know, I am old romantic, I am not going to change. This is the Byronic Hero in me. While we get on well, Svetlana is one of the ladies I consider out of my league, she runs a business.

Running a business doesn't leave much time for romance, despite our education differences, she said she doesn't consider me below her.

From her looks, and name, I would think Svetlana comes from the Baltic region, or Russia.