In the cool of the night

 Ghosts of Jazz

An evening with Svitlana

 Now the heatwave has eased, it is a plaeasant morning, it would have been ideal for an evening with my friend, Svitlana, The two of us walking by a river, listening to the water rippling, and watching the birds dipping; you'll have to excuse the old romantic.

Svitlana's wish

A sleepover

An evening with Svitlana

An exclusive friend

When Svitlana began chatting to me online, my idea was for a lasting friendship, with the possibility of it turning into a more serious relationship.

I did consider the possibility of having sex with her, if she asked, as always that option is upto the lady. I did not have in mind a sleepover, that would have been imposing in my mind. However, I was delighted, when Svitlana proposed the idea a few weeks ago, and re-affirmed her decision this week, with the addage of the sleepover becoming more than one.

The sleepover helps me, it means we don't need worry about me catching the last train to Bristol from Didcot at 9:00 pm. Also, it gives us another day together.

An evening with Svitlana

 My birthday present

                                                Film Noir evenings

Meeting Svitlana

The ideal birthday present for me, would be a sleepover with my friend, Svitlana, she has suggested it, not at my request. As Svitlana mentioned the subject, it is her choice to ask. I will not raise the subject again, if she raises the subject we can discuss how to go forward. I will be happy to spend the day with her, and return to Bristol with happy memories. All this is a long way off, as my birthday isn't until October

The Lady Vanishes

When you are in love with a beautiful woman

An evening with Svitlana 

How do I do it?

For several days last week, I thought my friend, Svitlana, wished not to keep in touch, I couldn't blame her, I am going through a rough patch with my finances, but the waters are calming now

I have no definite answer to my question, only conjectures from what ladies have told me over my years online.

Respect - unlike some men, I do NOT see a lady online as a lady seeking a hook-up for sex. I see a lady wishing to have a chat, what we talk about is the lady's choice.

Sex chat - if she wishes to talk about sex, that is her choice, I try not to lead the chat that way, even if we're close friends, and sex was on the chat last night. Once the evening ends, a new day begins, I do NOT consider talking about sex, unless the lady does, as far as I am concerned, each day is a new day for chat.

Sex Appeal - this is a questionable choice. I have been asked several times, "Have you always been this attractive?" Yes, I have, I have made no attempt to improve my outward appearance to attract a lady. I prefer to rely on my personality. I never push myself at a lady, as I never thought I was attractive to ladies

Issues of Trust

My birthday present

The Lady's Choice

An evening with Svitlana

The perfect gift for my birthday would be to be invited to sleep-over with my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

I won't push my idea, it is the lady's choice to ask, Things hinge on whether we meet, and how we get on, we got on well online this month. I am prepared for not to turn up, it would be a shame, yet the day won't be wasted.

Svitlana knows what happens is at her request, that includes if we have sex

A sleepover

 An evening with Svitlana

Svitlana asked for a romantic date

                                                                   Dateline - Alan Place

Recently, my friend, Svitlana, suggested I have a sleepover at her house in Didcot.

There are advantages, mainly we could have a relaxed evening without me worrying about catching the train back to Bristol. Next day return would be a little more expensive, but it is worth the price. I asked her to delay her request, until we had met a few times to see if we got on as well as we do online, I am sure we will.

We are easy going, and get on well online, we have a desire to meet, and turn the friendship into a lasting relationship

I am in a relationship

 Romance in Didcot

An evening with Svitlana

My lady friend in Oxfordshire

Though we haven't said it in actuality, I would say that if Svitlana, and I are not in a relationship, it won't be long before our friendship reaches that stage.

From our first chat on SoulmateMeets, to our chats on the better-suited Charming Talks, we have hit the ground running. Our chats are easy, and relaxed, unlike some ladies I had contact with online.

I have no objection to a sex chat with a lady, if it is her choice, but one lady in France went too far for my liking. While we discuss some matters of sex, they are not the main topic, which is why the chats are relaxed.

Against the odds

Charming Talks

Romance in Didcot

          An evening with Svitlana

When I added my profile to a mature dating app, I never expected any reaction, what happened was beyond my comprehension. I was asked for meetings with mature ladies from across the EU, the USA, and Asia.

The lady I got on best with is my friend, Svitlana, not only because she lives in the UK, but we "clicked." We do have sex chats from time to time, but we also spendtime chatting about movies and nature

Summer Holiday

 Svitlana's wish

What are my plans?

An evening with Svitlana

I hope to take a short break late this summer, my friend, Svitlana, is adamant she wants to meet, and wishes for me to sleepover, so we can relax without me worrying over catching the last train from Didcot back to Bristol. The extta fare is minimal, and we can share a second day, so it is a win-win for me.

Be Prepared

The Cancelled trip

Meeting in Didcot

An evening with Svitlana

I may be being fatalistic, but I am prepared for the trip to Didcot, to meet a friend, to be a non-event. If Svitlana does not turn up, I can visit a nearby castle, and still have a nice day out.

I have an odd feeling things are going too smoothly for us, I could be over-cautious, but I have been let down recently.

Sexual Requests

 Should I save myself?

Sex with Alan

An evening with Svitlana

Last month, I made the decision to be exclusive, to my friend   Svitlana. I am a on-lady man, and I chose her. Over July, I had several requests from ladies online to have sex, most were from either the EU, or the USA, I did have a request I would have taken up, but the lady lives in Colombia

Actions speak Louder than Words

A lady who knows what she wants

August Deadline

An evening with Svitlana

My friend in Oxfordshire, Svitlana, has made her intentions about how she wishes our relationship to move, clear to me. 

She had clear intentions of having sex with me from our first online chat.

I find it arousing that she is so open about her desires, as I get aroused knowing I have aroused the lady; I am about giving, not taking, which is probably why ladies feel safe chattign to me online.

I built my popular appeal on my personality, not my physical appearance.

I hope I am able to fulfil my friend's wishes.

Dynamite!!

 Am I too hot to handle?

An evening with Svitlana

She's in love with you

I don't know what, if anything, I expected when I added a profile to a mature dating site. I did it to clear something up in my mind, that had plagued me since my teens, were girls / ladies attracted to me? It wasn't vanity which was the question, I wanted honest opinions from ladies.

The replies I got back astounded me, several ladies online made sexual advances to me. I don't find ladies chatting about sex off-putting, usually, I usually find it arousing to know a lady feels free to chat about what she likes. However, one lady I chatted to in France was too explicit for my liking.

My friend above, and I, hit it off well once we got chatting, we are about the same age, Svitlana is 5 years older than me.

What lies beneath?

Hidden Delights

An evening with Svitlana

I only have eyes for you

The only lady who is likely to see what lies beneath, is my friend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

What or when she decides to do something, is up to the lady, I know what I would like, but the decision is hers to make; I don't see her being in control as a threat, I view it as a way of arousing her as she knows she has control.

You're the one I want

My lady friend in Oxfordshire

An evening with Svitlana

The True Path of Romance

Though I am still not 100% certain my meeting in Didcot will happen, after a chat this afternoon, some of my reservations are a little more relaxed. Svitlana appears to be set that I am her man, that suits me, if she is telling the truth. Until we meet, I am prepared for her NOT to turn up, if that is the case, I will have a nice day trip.