She done him wrong

 Mae West

The lady's choice

                                                            Cary Grant

This comedy with Mae West, is the debut for Cary Grant. She asked for min to apear. At the time he was a bit-player, struggling to get a break, after this role, as they say "the rest is history."

The title also refers to how I was treated by a scammer, who "claimed" to live in walking distance from me, in Bristol. Once her sister pays me back, the connection with Pamela Olsted will be over, I have moved on, and found a lady in Oxfordshire who DOES wish to meet me.

Do I mean somrthing to you?

 Charming Talks

SoulmateMeets

I get many offers

I can't help thinking, do I mean something to my friend, Svitlana, or am I only another customer on a chat site to her?

She is making the right chat to entice me to stay on the site, to chat to her, though the time is limited by how much I can afford.

I have the disadvantage of being an introvert, meeting ladies is hard for me. I could be reading something into the situation, which is not there. Last night when I contacted her, her mind appeared pre-occupied, and her request for explicit sex photographs has me wondering does she wish to meet me?

I can be tempted

Sex with a young lady

Profile Deletion

I am not above temptation, at times it is hard to resist the urge to agree to have sex with a young girl, many are after an older man, who can treat them with respect.

The real drawback, for me, is that while the girls are very attractive, they as the same age as my daughters.

Though, my meeting with Svitlana, in Didcot, looks as though it will happen, I am having doubts. She keeps asking for explicit sex photos, I have no worries about that, my concern is if she sees too many, she may not wish to meet me, as she has seen everything. I realise the opposite could also be true, and having seen it all, Svitlana could be desiring to see, and feel it for real.

We shared many photos, and my desire to meet her has grown with each photograph.

I shall wait and see

Oxfordshire Romance

Svitlana

For now, I am going to delay buying a Senior Railcard, until I have seen my friend in Oxfordshire a few times, to see if we gel in person as well as we do online.

From our chats, I don't think we'll have problems when we meet. Svitlana has made her thoughts clear to me, about how she views our friendship, she wishes to have a deep relationship.

She proposed a sleepover a few weeks ago, this would suit me, not only as it would allow us to spend more time relaxing together, it would mean I don't need to do a rwo-way train journey in a day

What are my plans?

Has my popularity on Mature Dating sites changed my decisions?

The rise of Alanism

Romance in Didcot

My popularity on dating sites last month has not changed how I see myself. I cannot understand why mature ladies find me attractive?

My immediate plan is to get my finances settled, I can do this by limiting my online chat to my friend, Svitlana, in Oxfordshire.

Once I have achieved this, I can think about arranging a meeting in Didcot, to see if we can turn our friendship into a relationship that will last.

The meeting won't be happening for several weeks as Svitlana has a holiday booked to return home to the Ukraine this month. I would like to meet her before my birthday in October, but it is the lady's choice when she feels ready

You're the one I want

My lady friend in Oxfordshire

An evening with Svitlana

The True Path of Romance

Though I am still not 100% certain my meeting in Didcot will happen, after a chat this afternoon, some of my reservations are a little more relaxed. Svitlana appears to be set that I am her man, that suits me, if she is telling the truth. Until we meet, I am prepared for her NOT to turn up, if that is the case, I will have a nice day trip.

Absent without Leave

Would I be missed?

SoulMateMeets

Could I be tempted from Svitlana?

As far as we are concerned, there is only one way I could be tempted to leave Svitlana, if she chose to end our friendship, and she has said she has no plan to do that.

I expect several ladies on SoulmateMeets are wondering why I have gone A.W.O.L?

There are two main answers, Charming Talks offered free chat tokens for the first week, and I needed those as I was struggling to pay Soulmate, and needed to convince Svitlana I hadn't lost interest in her.

The other reason is I found some of the ladies unattractive personality wise, in particular a lady in France who was to explicit in her sex chat. Within reason, I find a lady who chooses to talk about sex arousing, this lady was adamant we should go to the "next stage," when I had made no comment on how I felt about our remote friendship.

Be Prepared

The Cancelled trip

Meeting in Didcot

An evening with Svitlana

I may be being fatalistic, but I am prepared for the trip to Didcot, to meet a friend, to be a non-event. If Svitlana does not turn up, I can visit a nearby castle, and still have a nice day out.

I have an odd feeling things are going too smoothly for us, I could be over-cautious, but I have been let down recently.

When you are in love with a beautiful woman

 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Linda

Svitlana

Two stunning ladies

I consider myself to be fortunate to love, and be loved by two ladies I class as beautiful. Looks aren't everything, both my late wife, Linda, who passed away in January, 2025, and my new lady friend, Svitlana have a lovely personality, that is what matters most to me.

I didn't intend to have another relationship after my wife's death, I added my profile to a dating app to clear a question in my mind, and from the get-go, Svitlana, and I, hit it off.

Anarchy

 Buying goods from YouTube channels

Meeting in Didcot

History's Forgotten People

My friend, and lover, Svitlana and I plan to meet in Didcot soon. A day out I would like is to visit Wallingford Castle, which is only 25 minutes away. This is the castle where Empress Matilda was imprissoned during the 20-year-period, known as the anarchy. This was a war of succession between Matilada, and her cousin, Stephen, caused by the death at sea of the righttful heir to the throne.

I made the error last night, of looking for Walsingham, which is a long way off on the Norfolk coast. I used to know a lady in nearby Fakenham, many years ago, she was my BFF, until she got married. We were friends for over 12 years, and I visited her twice during the time.

Charming Talks

 Everyone wants to be my enemy

Mature Dating Apps

Svitlana asked for a romantic date

I joined Charming Talks as I was concerned my friend, Svitlana, was certain I didn't want to chat to her, as I'd been out of touch for days. The reason is I am going through a cash shortage this month, and need to ration my outlay.  There is a large difference between harming Talks and SoulMateMeets where we first chatted. CT gives you chat gems each day, so you can keep in touch, even if only for a few minutes.

Svitlana and I have come to the conclusion we are meant for each other, which is why I am exclusive to her.

Mature Dating

Sexual Encounters

Romance in Didcot

Sex with Alan

After a tense weekend, when I thought my friendship, with a mature lady in Didcot, was over. Svitlana and I have decided we are meant for each other.

I had chats with other ladies on the dating app, but none meant as much as Svitlana, we clicked from the get-go. I have no objections to ladies chatting about sex, as many on the site SoulmateMeets, did with me. 

Like all things, there was to be a limit, one lady in France was so explicit it would have out me off, if I'd been interested, which I wasn't. She kept going on about going to the "next stage," when I hadn't had any reaction to her; I did have several ladies offer to meet for sex, but only Svitlana means something to me.

Where to next?

 Senior Railcard

Alan Place - Senior Citizen

Moving on again

 I hope to meet Svitlana, in Didcot soon.

The weekend of 17th to 20th, July, I thought our friendship was over, but Svitlana is certain I am the man she is looking for, and I feel she's the lady for me.

We clicked from our first online chat.

The Cancelled trip

 Latino Street BItes

Going to the next stage

                                             Asda in Bedminster

I will go back to doing my food shopping in Bedminster, Bristol. By doing this, I can have lunch in my freind's cafe, in the undercroft of St. Mary's Church in Redcliffe.

I would have gone back this weekend, but I had a family matter to sort out. I am prepared to accept my proposed meeeting with my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, will not happen. I can't say why, I have an odd feeling, things are going too well.

Svitlana talks about going to the next stage in our friendship, I am taking a back seat for a while to establish where I am.

Will I make love again?

A good question

                                         When do I think I may make love again?

                                                                   Meeting Svitlana

This is a multi-layered question, to which I can answer one part. The rest can only be answered if I meet my friend, Svitalana.

The part I can answer is I would like to make love again, to the right lady.

Whether I do depends on many aspects beyond my control.

Will I meet Svitlana?

Will we got on as well in person, as we appeart to do online?

Will she wish for sex, as she keeps telling me in our chats?

When, if at all, will she decide to go that stage?

Will we meet?

 Are they paid by SoulMateMeets?

                                            Are they really intersted in me?

I am hoping to meet my friend,Svitlana, soon, she lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire. I am hoping she isn't playing me along, as she is always online, I am concerned she is paid by SoulmateMeets, and doesn't really care for me.

If that is the case, I will be a little disappointed, but at least it will get me out of Bristol for a day

Meeting in Didcot

 Going to the next stage

Meeting Svitlana

There is only one granny I wish to go to the next stage with, she is my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot.

We are building a firm friendship, despite a few cash setbacks this month, which we are hoping will turn into a relationship.

If iwas the type to play the field, which I am not, I could have sex with several of my mature lady friends

Dateline - Alan Place

 I wouldn't have believed it

                                                                           Mature Dating

Two months ago, if you had told me mature ladies on a Mature Dating saw me as attractive, I wouldn't have believed you, yet here I am in such demand I cannot cope.

What did I do?

Nothing different to my normal style of friendly, respectful chat to the ladies. I think it makes a change for them to know a man who is not driven by the need for sex. Don't get me wrong, many of the ladies could win a Glamorous Granny contest. If I was offered the opportunity, I would consider the option.

I think most of it is down to running a business leaves no time for romance, and with retirement approaching, they seek company.

I have been offered dates from ladies in several countires, both close, such as Spain, and France, to far away, such as China, and Japan. The odd thing is only two ladies in the UK approached me from over 100 requests.

Though I get around 30 offers to chat a day, the only lady I am interested in is my friend, Svitlana who lives in Didcot, in Oxfordshire.

Meeting in Didcot

 Swindon

Meeting halfway

My usual place to meet a lady is halfway, that way neither of us feel we are closer to home field advantage. In the case of meeting my friend, Svitlana, halfway would be Swindon, and I have bad memories of Swindon, also Didcot is somewhere I have not seen, so if all else fails, I will enjoy the day out. Not that I expect my meeting to go badly

Alan Place - Exclusive Lover

 One-lady man

Exclusive Lover

An exclusive friend

As our friendship has the great possibility of turning into a relationship, I made the decision to be exclusive to Svitlana, my friend in Didcot. This means I am going to delete my profile from the mature dating we met on.

I won't miss using the app, though I had female friends there, none had any possibiity of being more than casual friends, as they were all over, but none in the UK.