What are my plans?

Has my popularity on Mature Dating sites changed my decisions?

The rise of Alanism

Romance in Didcot

My popularity on dating sites last month has not changed how I see myself. I cannot understand why mature ladies find me attractive?

My immediate plan is to get my finances settled, I can do this by limiting my online chat to my friend, Svitlana, in Oxfordshire.

Once I have achieved this, I can think about arranging a meeting in Didcot, to see if we can turn our friendship into a relationship that will last.

The meeting won't be happening for several weeks as Svitlana has a holiday booked to return home to the Ukraine this month. I would like to meet her before my birthday in October, but it is the lady's choice when she feels ready

Dynamite!!

 Am I too hot to handle?

An evening with Svitlana

She's in love with you

I don't know what, if anything, I expected when I added a profile to a mature dating site. I did it to clear something up in my mind, that had plagued me since my teens, were girls / ladies attracted to me? It wasn't vanity which was the question, I wanted honest opinions from ladies.

The replies I got back astounded me, several ladies online made sexual advances to me. I don't find ladies chatting about sex off-putting, usually, I usually find it arousing to know a lady feels free to chat about what she likes. However, one lady I chatted to in France was too explicit for my liking.

My friend above, and I, hit it off well once we got chatting, we are about the same age, Svitlana is 5 years older than me.

Alan Place - Recluse

 Would I be missed?

Could I be tempted from Svitlana?

                                                        Mature Dating Apps

Until this afternoon, I would have said it would take a lot for me not to want to be with my friend, Svitlana, things have changed. I don't know if she does find me attractive, or if she's playing me to get money for subscription site.

I am prepared for NOT to turn up, when we arrange a meeting, if that happens, I can still enjoy the day as I can vist Wallingford Castle.

The best way to know if a person is genuine is to go out, and meet people, for an introvert like me, that is extremely hard. I thought myself unattractive, then the ladies online said I was wrong, now I find they may have said that to boost their pay from sites.

The True Path of Romance

 SoulmateMeets

SoulmateMeets is the worst site

                                  I am who I appear to be online

For weeks, I have had doubts about SoulmateMeets, and my thoughts were cemented by reviews on Trustpilot, SoulmateMeets is the worst app for mature dating. It is no more than a front to get your money, the possibility of a real connection is next-to-nothing. One person said the best way to start a romance, is to get out there. That lets me out, I am paranoid insecure about my appeal to ladies, and the last month destroyed any hopes, now I know I was being played.

I only have eyes for you

An exclusive friend

Alan Place - Exclusive Lover

                                             Alan Place - Exclusive friend

It could be understood that with my popular appeal in the Mature Dating scene, I could have several relationships, but that is not me.

I am only interested in meeting Svitlana, my friend in Oxfordshire. Svitlana wasn't the first lady who contacted me, she is the first in the UK, most of the others are either in Asia, the USA, or South America. I won't deny, living in the UK is a BIG PLUS, but more important is we clicked from our opening chat.

Some men could have been put off, by a lady who isn't worried about expressing her sexual desires, but within reason, I find it very arousing.

Charming Talks

 Everyone wants to be my enemy

Mature Dating Apps

Svitlana asked for a romantic date

I joined Charming Talks as I was concerned my friend, Svitlana, was certain I didn't want to chat to her, as I'd been out of touch for days. The reason is I am going through a cash shortage this month, and need to ration my outlay.  There is a large difference between harming Talks and SoulMateMeets where we first chatted. CT gives you chat gems each day, so you can keep in touch, even if only for a few minutes.

Svitlana and I have come to the conclusion we are meant for each other, which is why I am exclusive to her.

I am taking my profile offline

 A Turning Point for me

Meeting Svitlana

Romance in Didcot

I can thank Pamela Olsted for one thing, if she hadn't made me question how mature ladies see me, I wouldn't have come in contact with my beautiful friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

Our friendship is growing strong, and I am in favour of Svitlana's idea of turning it into a romantic relationship soon.

For this reason, I decuded to delete my profile from a mature dating app we made first contact on. My decision will upset several mature lady friends I made, but our connection was never as mine is with Svitlana, and they are in the EU, USA,  and South America, not the UK.

It isn't only that Svitlana lives in an area I can get to that forged our link, we got on well from the start.

Mature Dating

Sexual Encounters

Romance in Didcot

Sex with Alan

After a tense weekend, when I thought my friendship, with a mature lady in Didcot, was over. Svitlana and I have decided we are meant for each other.

I had chats with other ladies on the dating app, but none meant as much as Svitlana, we clicked from the get-go. I have no objections to ladies chatting about sex, as many on the site SoulmateMeets, did with me. 

Like all things, there was to be a limit, one lady in France was so explicit it would have out me off, if I'd been interested, which I wasn't. She kept going on about going to the "next stage," when I hadn't had any reaction to her; I did have several ladies offer to meet for sex, but only Svitlana means something to me.

Alan Place - Sex Object?

Alan's sex blog

This is funny

Blogs on Sex

The humour is ironic, I wrote a blog about a sexual encounter, over a decade ago, which is still my most read piece of writing.

I can write stories which apparently arouse ladies. Apparently, my appearance this month, on the mature dating scene has caused mass appeal for me, with several mature ladies asking to have sex with me.

The irony is, I haven't had sex for 16 years, and it doesn't look like I will again

After tommorow I may leave the Mature Dating scene

My next objective

                      From Tropico to Frostpunk

 Welcome to my NIGHTMARE

I am going to have to rethink my world, if I can't convince my friend in Didcot that I am serous about meeting her. I only had Svitlana in mind to meet, and build a relationship with, but she thiks I am not serious as I can't afford to keep chatting each day.

I have had messages from several friends online asking to meet, and the possibility of sex has been brought forward by the ladies.

If Svitlan ends our friendship, which looks likely. I have two options, crawl back in my shell, and live to me end, alone, or go the other way, get my passport, and arrange to meet some of the ladies close to me.

How do I do it?

 Explicit sex

Sexual Explosions

How do I arouse the ladies?

I admit, I have no idea how I arouse the mature ladies on the mature dating app we share. All I can say is I did nothing to encourage the, true, I don't discourage them. I find explicit sex chat from a lady is arousing.

Some of the sex chat is not only close to the mark, it leaves little to the imagination. I could claim the credit for arousing messages, most of the ladies begin the chats, the last thing I would do is open a chat with a lady online, and assume she wants to chat about sex, perhaps that IS my charm? Relying on my personality, rather than the sex appeal I exude for ladies.

My appeal could be a down play the sex appeal ladies say I have for them.

A Turning Point for me

 Mature Dating

SoulmateMeets

Dating a Granny

One of my biggest shocks in recent months, came this month.

For months, Pamela Olsted had been saying she thought I was attractive, but I doubted her honesty - with good reason - so, this month, to find an honest view on how mature ladies saw me, I added my profile to a mature dating app. The results astounded me, as I never saw myself as attractive to ladies.

I have been deluged with requests to meet, and several offers of sex. For now, there is only one lady I wish to have sex with, my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot

Come Monday

 Problems ahead

What do I seek?

SoulmateMeets

By this time tomorrow, I hope to be back on the mature dating app I chat on. The cash issue isn't solved, yet, only partially cleared, it will be a few months before I am back on my feet.

It has been a long weekend without my friends to chat with, I am sure I will get some questions asked as to my absence for so long, my popularity often causes ladies to be concerned

A Thriving blog in France today

Romance in France

                                                                   Valentyna

                                      A Romance crossing Continents

The leader in the readers for today so far, is France.

I could out this down to the highly romantic posts I have been adding since I joined the mature dating arena, this month. My friend, Valentyna, lives in France, where I don't know as my cash shortage limits my time online this month.

My allure to the ladies knows no boundaries, I have admirers across the continents. My charm is relying on my personality, not my sex appeal.

TBH, I didn't consider myself attractive, until this month

The AI overview

 Help from writer Jessica Scachetti

                                                                     A Blog Boost

A short while ago, writer Jessica Scachetti, reposted some of my blogs on her Twitter page, since then, I have a thriving blog.

The AI overview of the blog, states at the moment I am writing about my time in the Mature Dating arena, and my love of Yorkshire. I think that is a good write-up.

No wonder I am hungry

 Alan Place - A Writer in time

                                               A Return to Bloging

I have been so busy chatting, and blogging, I forgot to have a meal, that isn't unusal for me.

Technically, I didn't stop blogging, but the Mature Dating app, SoulmateMeets, has given me a surge of energy to blog about the mature ladies who find me attractive.

I have had offers for sex from several v attractive ladies, if I wasn't building a relationship with my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, I could have accepted

The #OlderLady tag

 The #granny tag

                                                      This is Your Life

The lady in the photograph is former Bollywood actress, Sharmila Tagore. Her father was an influential writer in the India of the 1940s. She shows ladies who wear glasses can be sexy.

Not all ladies over 50 are grannies.

I was as guilty as anyone in the assumption a lady in her late 50s is a granny. That was until a lady on a mature dating app we share, asked if I was put off by her not having children, when she is over 60?

I did find it odd, she is very attractive, but it didn't put me off. Some ladies concentrate on business, and forget their romance. I think accounts for around 50% of the ladies on the app, and why I am popular online.

I get approached by doctors, lawyers, ladies running their business, to name a few.

Am I heading for trouble?

 My world of Domination

                                                             Elena

Two angry Mature Ladies

Elena is cross with me because she sees me access the mature dating app we share, but thinks I ignore her as I don't chat to her.The issue is I can access the site, but I have no money for credit to chat.

Valentyna

Valentyna is to put it everday terms, "too pushy," She goes on about going to the "next stage" of the friendship, I don't know where she thinks we are in this stage?

I have no objection to a lady telling me what she wants, but this is turning into possession.

Attention from Female Friends

 Female Admirers

                                                                        I did nothing

The attention I am gaining from female friends has little to do with me. All I did was add my profile to one mature dating app, the rest is upto the ladies.

If I am honest, I expected little, or no reaction, to my appearance. I didn't expect to be deluged with requests to meet, and half requesting sex.

Am I too hot to handle?

Alan at 69

Mature Dating

The opinion of my granny friends is they think I am too hot to handle. Several of my online contacts are trying to arrange to meet me, many for sex.

There are some I would like to meet, only if Svitlana, my friend in Oxfordshire decided to end our friendship, which from her letters to the app we share, is highly unlikely to happen.

I have done nothing out of my usual freindly personality to attract attention, this would appear to be my charm. If you start to impress people, sooner-or-later, you will falter, and the real you will come out.

For some reason, beyond my understanding, I arouse great passion among the grannies I chat to