Svitlana is the only lady for me

 One-lady man

You're the one I want

Svitlana

Since we began our online chat,Svitlana, my friend in Didcot, Oxfordshire, is the only lady I have been interested in meeting. I have many offers from ladies to meet, and almost as many to have sex.

It isn't only because she is in the UK which makes her my choice, we hit it off from the start, we are ideal for each other.

The Lady Vanishes

When you are in love with a beautiful woman

An evening with Svitlana 

How do I do it?

For several days last week, I thought my friend, Svitlana, wished not to keep in touch, I couldn't blame her, I am going through a rough patch with my finances, but the waters are calming now

I have no definite answer to my question, only conjectures from what ladies have told me over my years online.

Respect - unlike some men, I do NOT see a lady online as a lady seeking a hook-up for sex. I see a lady wishing to have a chat, what we talk about is the lady's choice.

Sex chat - if she wishes to talk about sex, that is her choice, I try not to lead the chat that way, even if we're close friends, and sex was on the chat last night. Once the evening ends, a new day begins, I do NOT consider talking about sex, unless the lady does, as far as I am concerned, each day is a new day for chat.

Sex Appeal - this is a questionable choice. I have been asked several times, "Have you always been this attractive?" Yes, I have, I have made no attempt to improve my outward appearance to attract a lady. I prefer to rely on my personality. I never push myself at a lady, as I never thought I was attractive to ladies

Svitlana isn't the only one

 Ukraine

Svitlana

My friend Svitlana, isn't the only lady I spoke to from the Ukraine, last year I spoke to four young ladies who were in the fighting. The last one I knew was trying to scam me, how did I know?

She went from pleading for money for supplies one week, to saying she wanted to fly to meet me, the next week, then back to pleading, before saying she'd been invalided out after being shot in both knees. If the shooter is that good, why shoot her in the knees, when a headshot can kill?

I don't suspect Svitlana is trying to scam me, she appears to be genuinely interested in me, possibly too into me 😍

War of the Worlds

 What do you see in me?

                                                                A bit of rough

This week my self-doubts have risen again, the reason is on soulmatemeet, the mature dating site, along with my good friend Svitlana, I am being approached by several ladies.

While this is a thrill, it also eaises some concerns, not about my relationship with Svitlana, I can handle that. The issue is some of the ladies are judges, other own their own business, which comes back to the question, what can ladies with that degree of knowledge see in me?

I had a friend in Seattle, who had been to university at the time I was born, we got on well, but that was because we knew the boundaries. Though we got on well, extremely friendly most of the time, Julia and I knew it was only friendship. She did offer me the opportunity to visit her, there was a contest she thought I had an opportunity to win being run in the area, we used to play Words with Friends most nights, Scrabble under a different name. Julia was amazed at my ability with words.

I politely declined, not only because the contest was ongoing for weeks, but I pointed out the styles of the players, I had no doubt, I would not lose many games - no bragging - but I wouldn't get far, most of the people in the contests win by closing the game down with words of two, or three letters.

I have no issue with being the "bit of rough on the side." for an attractive lady, but we have no common ground for conversation. We had the same issue at Bristol Museum, when they tried to get the curators, and the security staff to share a rest-room and have a conversation.

I pointed out to my friend, Francis Greenacre, we don't share the same world, while they talk about trips abroad, we'd talk about the football on tv. What they class as a once-a-week treat, we'd call it a once-a-month splashout. Despite our different outlooks on life, he saw my point

Grannies Friend

 Granny Sex 

Sex in the 70s 

This month, to my delight, I have been offered the possibility of sex with two grannies, not at the same time.

One lady "claims" to live in Bristol, but as she keeps refusing to meet me, I have my doubts on this subject, Clara is younger than me as she is 57. The other lady, Svitlana, lives in Oxfordshire, and is a couple years older than me at 74. Though Oxfordshire is 100 miles away, it is easy to reach by train, I'd rather travel 100 miles knowing I will meet the lady, than 3 miles thinking she'll give me another excuse. Clara knows I don't trust her, and she is on borrowed time as August is getting closer.

I also have the offer of sex with a young lady in her 30s from Taunton, Somerset, who visits friends in Bedminster each weekend.

I only met Svitlana as I was exploring, for my benefit, the opinion of ladies on how they see me, as I never considered myself attractive

I only have eyes for you

An exclusive friend

Alan Place - Exclusive Lover

                                             Alan Place - Exclusive friend

It could be understood that with my popular appeal in the Mature Dating scene, I could have several relationships, but that is not me.

I am only interested in meeting Svitlana, my friend in Oxfordshire. Svitlana wasn't the first lady who contacted me, she is the first in the UK, most of the others are either in Asia, the USA, or South America. I won't deny, living in the UK is a BIG PLUS, but more important is we clicked from our opening chat.

Some men could have been put off, by a lady who isn't worried about expressing her sexual desires, but within reason, I find it very arousing.

How did it start?

 Meeting Svitlana

Online Chat rooms

Alan Place

A year ago a comment I put on Twitter stired up some interest in me among ladies. I said, "If I was to look for another relationship, I wouldn't consider doing it, until April."

A history teacher from the USA, who lives in Gloucester asked "Why wait so long, when the lady you may want is here now?" I explained that from October to April, I had several family related matters to handle. She made it clear, she wished me to be the man in her life. We had a short time chatting online, our link on Signal was so bad it would take a day for me to get a reply to a message. She didn't believe me when I told her, and accused me of cheating on her.

Next came another lady from the USA, she lives near me in Thornbury. Again, she made her intentions clear, she wished for me to be her lover, I never felt anything for this lady.

After that, I can only describe the next eight months as HELL, looking back. I got involved with a lady I thought at first, lived in Bristol, it was soon clear to me she did not. It tuned out she lives in Pennsylvania, is a scammer, and has served jail time for identity theft. I hope to have a refund of the loan I sent her over the eight months I had contact with her, later today. I emphasise "HOPE."

Finally, afer ending my contact with the scammer, I added my profile to a dating app, to see if ladies do find me attractive, and formed a link with my new friend, Svitlana, who is from Ukraine, but lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

Svitlana

The Great Divide

Romance found me

The difference between Pamela and Svitlana

                                    The True Path of Romance

Other than Svitlana doesn't keep asking for money, the big difference between our chats, and those I had with Pamela Olstad "AKA Clara Kent," is Svitlana interacts with the chat, whereas the other lady only agreed with my suggestions.

It was hard to chat to PO, whereas chatting to Svitlana is a pleasure, as we got on well from our first chat. Svitlana often chooses to chat about sex, which I find arousing. Unlike some men, I find a lady who asks for what she, is a delight, not a threat. What can be more arousing than kowing you are arousing your partner?

Dateline - Alan Place

 I wouldn't have believed it

                                                                           Mature Dating

Two months ago, if you had told me mature ladies on a Mature Dating saw me as attractive, I wouldn't have believed you, yet here I am in such demand I cannot cope.

What did I do?

Nothing different to my normal style of friendly, respectful chat to the ladies. I think it makes a change for them to know a man who is not driven by the need for sex. Don't get me wrong, many of the ladies could win a Glamorous Granny contest. If I was offered the opportunity, I would consider the option.

I think most of it is down to running a business leaves no time for romance, and with retirement approaching, they seek company.

I have been offered dates from ladies in several countires, both close, such as Spain, and France, to far away, such as China, and Japan. The odd thing is only two ladies in the UK approached me from over 100 requests.

Though I get around 30 offers to chat a day, the only lady I am interested in is my friend, Svitlana who lives in Didcot, in Oxfordshire.

What lies beneath?

Hidden Delights

An evening with Svitlana

I only have eyes for you

The only lady who is likely to see what lies beneath, is my friend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

What or when she decides to do something, is up to the lady, I know what I would like, but the decision is hers to make; I don't see her being in control as a threat, I view it as a way of arousing her as she knows she has control.

Sex with a Granny

Dating a Granny

                                                                   Granny Sex

My friend, Svitlana, has made her intentions for us clear, she wishes to have sex with me. She didn't tell me straight away, but it became clear not long after our chatting began. Some men would be put off by a lady hitting on them, but I find a lady who knows what she wants arousing.

I won't deny I was a little put aback by the speed she approached the subject, I hoped we'd get to the subject of sex sometime, but I had no schedule. I let the lady choose the speed and direction of the chats to make her feel safe.

Recent events are proving interesting, I have been asked to keep in daily contact, this shows a deep connection, to me. This is not always possible, for the next month I have a cash shortage.

Svitlana isn't the only mature lady friend who says I should stay in contact, there are several others who get worried if I don't show on the app we share. I find it hard to believe I have had this effect on ladies, after only a few weeks.

Could I be tempted from Svitlana?

 It is the lady's choice

Romance in Didcot

The answer to my question lies with my friend, Svitlana.

As for my part, the answer is no, I cannot be tempted from Svitlana, there are several ladies on SoulmateMeets who I could be interested in. Only, if Svitlana decides not to be my companion.

As with many areas of romance, for me, the choice is upto the lady

An Interesting Prospect

Would I consider sex with an older lady?

Nationality doesn't matter

Granny Sex

A lady's nationality is not an issue for me, years ago, I had sex with a mture lady who lived in Canada. My current romance is with a lady from the Ukraine, and I was offered sex with a lady from the Ukraine who lives in Spain. If I could have travelled, there is a very attractive lady in Colombia I could have made tove to.

I was offered sex with ladies from several countries, and continents. I only have eyes for my friend in Oxfordshire, Svitlana is five years older than me, she is 74.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

There is only one lady for me

                                                    Romance in Didcot

My relationship with Svitlana is off to a rocky start, as I can't always be online, and she thinks I ignore her. I explained I am short of cash this month, but the issue will resolve themselves next month.

She lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire, while it is an hour by train, it is an easy trip from Bristol. I was looking for friendship, but Svitlana made it clear she wishes to have sex, that is the lady's choice

Why do I appear to be off SoulmateMeets?

I need time to process the requsests

                                                                   A shortage of funds

When I am not on the Mature Dating app,SoulmateMeets, there are several ladies who get worried I have forgotten them, This is not the case, the two main reasons for my apparent disappeance are I have a limited amount of money available for the credits needed to chat on the site.

 The second reason is I need time to process the requests for sex by the ladies, this does NOT mean I am considering sex with the ladies, many are tempting. 

At the moment, I only have one lady in my life, Svitlana,My lady friend in Oxfordshire. I couldn't satisfy all the requests, even if I had two doppelgangers. What I consider, is not the possibility of making love to the ladies, but what they enjoy. Their posts are very descriptive, and arousing.

Why do ladies find me attractive?

The lady's choice

It is the lady's choice

                                  Could I be tempted from Svitlana?

The first question I have no definite answer to, I can only tell you what ladies told me. They feel safe chatting to me, because I am respectful, non-assertive, and don't view a lady online as a target for sex chat, unless she chooses to chat about sex. I have been told I have an endearing personality which draws people to me, I will admit that is true.

The answer to the second question, lies with my my friend in Oxfordshire, I have no wish to end our friendship, I am hoping it turns into a relationship. From our recent chats, that is what Svitlana has in mind too.

The rise of Alanism

 What is it about me?

I only have eyes for you

I never considered myself attractive

This month has been an eye-opener for me.

Until now, I never considered the possibilty ladies would consider me as attractive, which coul be why they do.

In the past month, I have innundated with requests to meet ladies, some are suggesting we have sex.

While I am pleased at the reaction I arouse, I have only one lady in my life, now my wife has passed away. That lady is my friend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

If I was the type to play-the-field, which I am not. I could have relationships in the USA, Asia, and the EU, so the possibility of the ladies meeting is remote.

My life has been a lie

 Another Life

                                           Romance in Didcot

I have several things to clear up in this blog.

What is the lie?

Who started it?

Why did it start?

What stopped the lie?

The lie is I thought I was unattractive.

I started the lie.

I began to convince myself of the lie, being unsure of myself in my teens. Rather than get turned down when I asked a girl out, I decided not to ask. From that point, I was on a downward spiral. I couldn't convince myself, even after I was married, as my wife was introduced to me on a blind date.

My wife convinced me she loved me, and we had 38 years together.

Even after my wife passed in in January, 2025, my opinion didn't alter. I was back to my mindset, only approaching 69. This is when the rot set in, at 69, I thought no lady would wish to engage in a relationship with me. This proved to be the BIGGEST lie I told myself, as my popularity on SoulmateMeets shows.

I have many admires, some are too young for cosideration, others are too far from me. One lady has taken to me, Svitlana, lives in Didcot.

My original purpose of entering the world of Mature Dating was to see how ladies viewed me, not to boost me ego, to get a female view of myself

Anarchy

 Buying goods from YouTube channels

Meeting in Didcot

History's Forgotten People

My friend, and lover, Svitlana and I plan to meet in Didcot soon. A day out I would like is to visit Wallingford Castle, which is only 25 minutes away. This is the castle where Empress Matilda was imprissoned during the 20-year-period, known as the anarchy. This was a war of succession between Matilada, and her cousin, Stephen, caused by the death at sea of the righttful heir to the throne.

I made the error last night, of looking for Walsingham, which is a long way off on the Norfolk coast. I used to know a lady in nearby Fakenham, many years ago, she was my BFF, until she got married. We were friends for over 12 years, and I visited her twice during the time.

I am desired

 Romance in Didcot

Meeting Svitlana

She's in love with you

I have ladies online who class as their favourite, the only lady I am interested in is my friend,Svitlana, who lives in Didcot in Oxfordshire.

From the get-go we got on well, even if she was a little enthsiastic about her sex chat, but that is nothing I worry about. I find a lady who knows what she likes, and isn't afraid to ask, arousing.

There was one lady in France I found off-putting, she was too descriptive for my liking, and I wasn't really interested in her besides that,