Downsizing

 R.I.P. Linda

Would I re-marry?

Romance in Didcot

Since my wife passed away in January, the idea of downsizing has been on my mind. There are other matters which stop me, apart from having to do the house clean out.

The reasons I can't move are I have family issues here in Bristol, which mean I am trapped, and I couldn't afford to move. I was considering a move, if my romance with a lady I know in Didcot, Oxfordshire, blossomed., as she did ask if I was interested in marriage? In the future, if she asked me to move in with her, it would have been a possibility. I say would, as my situation isn't likely to change.

If my situation was not so complex, I would possibly consider re-marrying.

A Double Romance

 If Romance calls

Romance in Didcot

My friend in Valencia

Some men in my position would play both ends against the middle, and hope for the best, not me.

I have two attractive mature ladies wishing to have sex with me, it would be easy to run a double life, as one lady lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire, and the other in Valencia, Spain. That is not my way, it would be unfair to the ladies, and I could lose two friends. It is a hard choice to make, both ladies I find attractive.

My life has been a lie

 Another Life

                                           Romance in Didcot

I have several things to clear up in this blog.

What is the lie?

Who started it?

Why did it start?

What stopped the lie?

The lie is I thought I was unattractive.

I started the lie.

I began to convince myself of the lie, being unsure of myself in my teens. Rather than get turned down when I asked a girl out, I decided not to ask. From that point, I was on a downward spiral. I couldn't convince myself, even after I was married, as my wife was introduced to me on a blind date.

My wife convinced me she loved me, and we had 38 years together.

Even after my wife passed in in January, 2025, my opinion didn't alter. I was back to my mindset, only approaching 69. This is when the rot set in, at 69, I thought no lady would wish to engage in a relationship with me. This proved to be the BIGGEST lie I told myself, as my popularity on SoulmateMeets shows.

I have many admires, some are too young for cosideration, others are too far from me. One lady has taken to me, Svitlana, lives in Didcot.

My original purpose of entering the world of Mature Dating was to see how ladies viewed me, not to boost me ego, to get a female view of myself

I am desired

 Romance in Didcot

Meeting Svitlana

She's in love with you

I have ladies online who class as their favourite, the only lady I am interested in is my friend,Svitlana, who lives in Didcot in Oxfordshire.

From the get-go we got on well, even if she was a little enthsiastic about her sex chat, but that is nothing I worry about. I find a lady who knows what she likes, and isn't afraid to ask, arousing.

There was one lady in France I found off-putting, she was too descriptive for my liking, and I wasn't really interested in her besides that,

My lady friend in Oxfordshire

 Svitlana 

Romance in Didcot

The Oxfordshire Romance

This beautiful lady is my friend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire. She contacted me on soulmatemeets, and we clicked from the get-go. Unlike my previous friendship with a mature lady, which I ended yesterday, Svitlana doesn't put me on my guard. Our chat is informal, and very friendly; I am hoping we can meet soon, Svitlana is serious about meeting me.

I wasn't searching for romance, but I wasn't going to turn the opportunity of another relationship down, if a lady took a liking to me

The Oxfordshire Romance

 Romance in Didcot

Svitlana

So far, things are going well for my romance with my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot in Oxfordshire. At the moment, conctact is sporadic as we chat on soulmatemeets, and I am going through a rough patch of financial issues, so I can't afford much, but things are on the rise.

I hope to Svitlana soon though

I am taking my profile offline

 A Turning Point for me

Meeting Svitlana

Romance in Didcot

I can thank Pamela Olsted for one thing, if she hadn't made me question how mature ladies see me, I wouldn't have come in contact with my beautiful friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire.

Our friendship is growing strong, and I am in favour of Svitlana's idea of turning it into a romantic relationship soon.

For this reason, I decuded to delete my profile from a mature dating app we made first contact on. My decision will upset several mature lady friends I made, but our connection was never as mine is with Svitlana, and they are in the EU, USA,  and South America, not the UK.

It isn't only that Svitlana lives in an area I can get to that forged our link, we got on well from the start.

All quiet on WhatsApp

 Disconnected but not bothered

Romance in Didcot

 Since yesterday afternoon, my WhatsApp chat has gone silent as the lady who said she was in Bristol got blocked for telling me lies for several months. I do miss our chats, but how can you trust a person who admits to misleading you, that is a huge mark of disrespect. Her latest attempt to get back in my favour is to get her sister to tell me, since we stopped chatting she has been in Southmead Hospital, Bristol.

Call me heartless, if she was, which I doubt, after being lied to for months, and sending her money, can you blame me for not caring?

I now chat with a friend on Charming Talks, who lives in Didcot, we hope to meet in a month's time

Senior Railcard

 Romance in Didcot

My Phobia

One of my tasks next month is to buy a Senior Railcard, so I can visit my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire. Didcot is an area I passed through many times travelling to and from the east coast when I returned to the UK from Germany, where I was stationed in the Royal Air Force, but I never visited the area

An Exclusive Friend

 Romance in Didcot

Alan Place - Exclusive Lover

Svitlana

As the friendship between Svitlana, my lady friend in Didcot and myself is blooming, I decided to take my profile of the Mature Dating apps we shared.

Though I made contact with several very attractive mature ladies, few did half as much as Svitlana has done to arouse my interest, some turned me off them.

I have nothing against sex chat, but one lady in France went too far, plus she seemed to be under the impression we were a couple, I did nothing to encourage her, and wished to go to the "next stage," when I hadn't made any attempt to settle first contact. In the right context, as with Svitlana, I find sex chat arousing,

The story behind the short story shown here is about the night I almost died in my sleep

A new beginning

Meeting Svitlana

 The Mysteries of Romance

Latino Street Bites

I have put the last several months behind me, and I am now back to visiting my friend, Michelle's, cafe in Redcliffe, Bristol, twice a week when finances or health allow.

Romance in Didcot

Another improvement to my life is the hope of meeting my new freiend, Svitlana, who lives in Didcot, Oxfordshire. Svitlana and I get on well with our online chat on Charming Talks, and she has made it clear she wishes to have sex with me.

She's in love with you

Romance in Didcot

 The True Path of Romance

Meeting Svitlana

I am still unsure if the planned meeting in Didcot will happen, after a short chat today, I am a little more at ease than I have been for the last few days.

I am prepared for the day trip to be a visit to the area, if that is the case, I will still enjoy the day, as there are some places of interest for me to visit nearby.

Senior Railcard

Visiting Exeter

Romance in Didcot

Before my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, began chatting on a Mature Dating site, I was thinking of buying a Senior Railcard. There are places in the area I haven't been to, I have been through Gloucester many times, but I have not had a trip to see the city. I would also like to visit Exeter for some reason beyond my memory. I may even revisit either Cheltenham, or Southampton, now I know how they changed.

My last visit to Southampton was to visit a late aunt's house, I am glad I didn't complete the trip as the house was in a terrible state of disrepair with graffiti sprayed on the once white walls

 

What are my plans?

Has my popularity on Mature Dating sites changed my decisions?

The rise of Alanism

Romance in Didcot

My popularity on dating sites last month has not changed how I see myself. I cannot understand why mature ladies find me attractive?

My immediate plan is to get my finances settled, I can do this by limiting my online chat to my friend, Svitlana, in Oxfordshire.

Once I have achieved this, I can think about arranging a meeting in Didcot, to see if we can turn our friendship into a relationship that will last.

The meeting won't be happening for several weeks as Svitlana has a holiday booked to return home to the Ukraine this month. I would like to meet her before my birthday in October, but it is the lady's choice when she feels ready

What appeals to me?

 Romance in Didcot

Personality over Glamour

Glamour is the attraction

      In Praise of Older Women

If glamour is the attraction, personality is the magnet that bonds the relationship of two people.

I may have been drawn to my friend, Svitlana, in Didcot, Oxfordshire, for her looks, but it is her personality which is keeping us together. We bonded closer through a shared desire for a lasting relationship in our later years.

My friend is a little older than me, she is 74.

My Film Noir Romance

 Romance in Whitchurch?

Romance in Didcot

My partnership / friendship with a lady who claimed to live in Bristol is over.

It ran like a classic film noir movie.

Guy with a good heart falls a pretty lady, who turns out to be a rat.

The difference is I am not heart-broken at the end, I'd decided it was over months ago, when she addmited shed been telling me lies, not that I hadn't reckoned that long before I was told. Like any good guy, I hoped things would turn out well for me, and like every dame, she betrayed me.

I'm moving on though, by adding my profile to two Mature Dating Apps, I have found ladies find me attractive, to my suprise

How many chances would you give a person?

 Romance in Whitchurch?

Connecting on WhatsApp

I am NOT seeking romance

I ended my friendship with a lady I chatted to on WhatsApp, why?

Clara "claims" to live in Whitchurch, Bristol, a short walk from where I live in Hartcliffe.

Over several months, I arranged to meet her over 60 times, and she never turned up. Early on, I thought she was a SCAMMER, but I decided to give her the chance to prove me wrong, she never did.

This week, her younger sister contacted me on WhatsApp, to tell me she is ill in Southmead Hospital, Bristol. As I explained in my post  - Damage Control - if this is true, which I doubt, why should I care? You may think this is harsh, but she lied to me for several months, and owes me £3,000.

If you wish to judge me, look at me position.

I was lied to for several months

I am owed £3,000

I gave her over 5 dozen opportunities to meet me

I lost respect with my children for months, something which is slowly coming back, though they are still wary of me meeting ladies I chat to online.

I am wary of meeting ladies too, even though Svitlana, and I, get on well, I am prepared for our proposed meeting in Didcot to be a non-event.

August Deadline

 Svitlana

My Blonde Bombshell

Romance in Didcot

I wish to start a relationship with my friend Svetlana, in Didcot. The problem is my cash shortage makes it hard to keep chatting on the mature dating app we shared..

I was hoping to meet her soon, but my situation has prompted ther to ask. am  serious, if not can I tell we are over?

I have several other mature ladies asking to meet me, some are interested in sex.

I may bojunce back, but it will take time this time, I had a feeling this was coming. I had a dream about this thre days ago.

If I can't save the situation tonight, it will be dead by August.

Will we meet?

Meeting Svitlana

Romance in Didcot

Be Prepared

Though, Svitlana has made it clear to me that she wishes to meet me, I am still not totally sure our meeting in Didcot, will happen. Even if we don't meet, I can still enjoy the day out.

I would love nothing more than to meet Svitlana, we get on so well in our online chat forum, it would be a shame if we didn't have the opportunity to meet, especially as she is keen for us to have sex.

Mature Dating

Sexual Encounters

Romance in Didcot

Sex with Alan

After a tense weekend, when I thought my friendship, with a mature lady in Didcot, was over. Svitlana and I have decided we are meant for each other.

I had chats with other ladies on the dating app, but none meant as much as Svitlana, we clicked from the get-go. I have no objections to ladies chatting about sex, as many on the site SoulmateMeets, did with me. 

Like all things, there was to be a limit, one lady in France was so explicit it would have out me off, if I'd been interested, which I wasn't. She kept going on about going to the "next stage," when I hadn't had any reaction to her; I did have several ladies offer to meet for sex, but only Svitlana means something to me.