My Exceptional Lover

 Svitlana's dedication

My Angel

In discussion with Svitlana

The sense of warmth I feel with Svitlana, is the same I felt with my late wife, we connect well, and easily. This is something I never felt with Clara Kent AKA Pamela Olsted.

With PO, I always felt a feeling of the friendship being one-sided, I would ask a question, or say something, and she would agree, yet not progress into a chat.

Svitlana and I often share jokes, or feeely discuss sex

There are times when I question my sanity

 Mental Health Concerns

Pamela Olsted

A strange dynamic

I'd be telling lies if I said the last year has been less than horrorific for me, though the the last two months of knowing Svitlana took some of the nastiness away.

In November of 2026, I was approached by a person calling themselves Clara Kent, who "claimed" to live in Bristol.Her name is Pamela Olsted.From the outset, our online chat appeared strained, she would agree with what i was saying, but never continue the conversation. Not long after we began, I had the impression she wasn't in the UK, but I kept the link, hoping she'd prove me wrong, which she didn't. She lives in Pennsylvania in the USA.

Two months ago, I cut ties with her, a few weeks later her sister contacted me to say Pamela was in hospital, and hadn't eaten for weeks. The sister, then said she would pay off the debt Pamela owed me. From the outset, I considered this another scam. After all, her sister had lied to me for months, why would I believe her?

Two months of stress later, I am still waiting for my refund, and I doubt it will come

A Suprise ending to 2026

 Meeting in Didcot

Action Stations !!!

Meeting Svitlana

Today will begin the end of my time in hell. In November, 2025, I was contacted on Twitter, and later via WhatsApp by a lady calling herself Clara Kent, she turned out to be scammer Pamela Olsted.

By various means, she convinced me she cared for me, when all she wanted was my money. I was for a short period, under the impression she lived near me in Bristol. I stayed in contact, to give her the opportunity to prove she lived here, but it was soon clear she didn't.

By July, 2026, I had put her out of my mind, and resigned myself to losing the money I sent her, despite her saying she would refund me at some time. In September, 2026, her sister said she would repay the money owed to me, today, I am hoping this will happen.

I can finally put Pamela, and her family, out of my mind, and concentrate on meeting my friend   Svitlana in Didcot, Oxfordshire. Svitlana and I made contact on SoulmateMeets, and have continued our friendship on Charming Talks, we got on well from our first chat.

On a more personal note, today I will be going into hospital to have a lump removed from my neck.

The Monkey on my back

 Will we meet?

2026

                                          Have I missed chatting to Pamela aka Clara?

If you haven't heard the quote "I have a monkey on my back," it means having something niggling at you all the time, in my case the SCAMMER, Pamela Olsted, who owes me £3,000. I thought I was helping a lady who wished to have a relationship with me, "no fool like an old fool."

IF, BIG if, all goes well, I should get my money this week as her sister has said she'll pay me.

I can't say I missed the chats we had, I was doing the chatting, and PO was only agreeing with me.

Hopefully, once this mess is cleared, I can progress with meeting my friend in Didcot.

Reckless

 Romance in Didcot

The Oxfordshire Romance

I have moved on

I could be classed as reckless, I started a friendship with a lady online, within days of ending another friendship. 

My problem is being an introvert, making contact in person is impossile, mainly because until July, I thought i was unattractive. The two ladies are very different were Svitlana is kind, generous, and caring about us, all Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent wanted was to scam me.

The truth is I was over Pamela months before I ended the friendship, she had been telling lies for months, once or twice, I can forgive, but for months is beyond forgiveness.

This film with Wiliam Powell, and his wife, Jean Harlow will be only the second film I have seen with Rosalind Russell in.

Have I missed chatting to Pamela aka Clara?

Pamela Olsted 

Something good from my time with Clara

Svitlana

It has been a month since I stopped chatting to a lady who "claimed" to live in Whitchurch, Bristol, not far from where I am in Hartcliffe.

I had long considered her a scammer, at least once a month, she'd ask for money for "car repairs," then there was bus money.

The answer to the question is No, I do not miss chatting to the lady.

The best thing which came from that time is I added my profile to two mature dating apps, and the lady above, who lives in Oxfordshire, contacted me.

Svitlana and I hope to turn our online friendship into the relationship that the other lady "claimed" to want.

Tomorrow's World

If Romance calls

Getting over Pamela Olsted

                                                                                       Sister Act

Hopefully, by tomorrow evening I can be rid of the stench of Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent.

Her sister has said, she will pay off Pamela's debts. I won't lie, having that money back WILL make a big improvement in both my mental health state, and my finances. For the first time since November, we can eat each week, as I was sending the money, we had to go a week without food.

It has taken months for me to regain the trust of my children, they told me she was a SCAMMER, and I had the feeling too, but I was willling to give her the opportunity to prove me wrong, which she never did.

Online Chat rooms

The Dangers of being an Introvert 

I never considered myself attractive

I never see myself as ladies see me

The main risk of being an introvert like me is you have to rely on online chat rooms to make contact, as I found out with Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent, this can leave you vulnerable to scammers. Most people online are genuine I have found out.

My problem was until last month, July 2026, I never considered myself as attractive to ladies, adding my profile to two mature dating apps changed my view, if not my outlook of myself. I am still unsure of my appeal

No money for food

Sister Act

The Cold Hard Facts

                                                  In discussion with Clara

Knowing Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent left me without money for food and bills this week. This is the price I pay for helping a lady I thought wished to meet me, and form a relationship. According to her sister, Pamela has been ill since I stopped chatting to her at the end of June, considering she, Pamela, admitted to telling me lies for several months, I am taking this with a large dose of salt.

No way back

Openness can be arousing 

Honesty is the way forward

Is Clara in Bristol?

The lady I knew who "claimed" to live near me in Bristol, got back in touch, as I knew she would when she saw the link was open again, so much for being ill in hospital.

She still calls me "babe," and thinks I care for her, even though I told her a month ago, I have moved on, and found a lady who does live in the UK.

The reason I re-opened the link is on the remote possibility she repays the money I sent, her sister has the details, and she has a PayPal link.

I have no interest in meeting her, even if she does live within walking distance of me in Whitchurch

Damage Control

 Something good

Cash Shortage

Is Clara in Bristol?

My cash shortage caused by Pamela Olsted could be over soon, her sister offered to pay me the money I was owed. I was offered £15,000, but said I was only wanting the £3,000 I was owed, even this is a little over what I paid out, but I think I am owed a little more for several months of living on the edge of my nerves, wondering how I can pay bills. Not to mention the lies I was told.

The sister said she is in Southmead Hospital in Bristol, I never had proof she is in Bristol. I believe she is in the USA, which makes sense now, as she would contact me at 01:00 UK time, which is around 19:00 US time.

I could have used the extra money for my new friendship with Svitlana in Oxfordshire, but I am too honest to take money I am not owed.

After what I went through, I am not holding my breath for the payment, it does raise a question, if her sister had the money, why did Pamela ask me for it?

The Great Divide

Romance found me

The difference between Pamela and Svitlana

                                    The True Path of Romance

Other than Svitlana doesn't keep asking for money, the big difference between our chats, and those I had with Pamela Olstad "AKA Clara Kent," is Svitlana interacts with the chat, whereas the other lady only agreed with my suggestions.

It was hard to chat to PO, whereas chatting to Svitlana is a pleasure, as we got on well from our first chat. Svitlana often chooses to chat about sex, which I find arousing. Unlike some men, I find a lady who asks for what she, is a delight, not a threat. What can be more arousing than kowing you are arousing your partner?

Amira jewellery,

 Don't be fooled

                                                   SCAMBUSTER

Scams

Last night was another failed attempt to scam me, Amira jewellery, a company I never heard of, that doesn't mean a lot. Texted me on Twitter to say I had won a BMW as a prize for posts on their Facebook page.

They could be honest, but I go by the rule of "It's better to be safe than sorry." Besides what would I do with a new BMW, I can't drive, I am a disabled pensioner, and struggling to pay my bills. The last thing I need is a petrol guzzling car.

This may appear far-fetched, but it is far from the weirdest tale I was told 🤣🤣.

Years ago, I had a series of scam attempts put to me.

Several times I was told I'd won a lottery I didn't know about in the USA. I was told a Mininster had told his parishoners to help the poor, how did they know me, I never mention finanaces online, that is a 👎👎, as soon as people ask about my money, I block them.

There is the sugar momma, a lady claiming to be so rich, she feels she needs to help those less well off. The best is I was told I appeared in three ladies dreams.

One scam I tell freinds about is the Evan Kate scam. 

The usual approach goes like this, you'll get a text along the lines of my father has just died, and I have taken over his business. The next phase is they will send you some photos they "claim" are from their factories. You can't prove they aren't, and they can't prove they are from their factories. The images could just as easily be downloaded from any page online. The stage at which I didn't get passed is when they ask, what would you do with $20,000?

At this point, the next stage would have been to ask for bank details.

I could have been wrong, I don't think I was, I have seen many pages with the name Evan Kate attached in some form, including one attached to Pamela Olsted aka Clara Kent, who took me for $1,0000 pretnding to be in love with me. PO has a police record for identity theft in the USA. At the time I saw her name attached to Evan Kate I wasn't sure what to think, as I knew Evan Kate to be a scam.

Meat Feast

 Svitlana

If Romance calls

I woke this morning feeling very aroused, this is something I never did while I was in contact with Clara, the lady who "claimed" to live in Bristol. The reason for this is I know the feelings Svitlana has for me are genuine, whereas I always had the feeling Clara was after my money. I was right, she admitted she had been telling lies

Film Noir evenings

Why do I enjoy Film Noir?

The Pat Canella Story

One of the things Clara talked me into believing was that we could enjoy some Film Noir together on an evening.

It didn't take me long to realise, she wasn't making suggestions, but going with my ideas, such as visiting Slimbridge.

Anyway, she is behind me now, though she did contact the blog last night, my reply was polite, but uninviting.

She may thibk she can get back on my good side, but I have moved on. I am not broken-hearted, I was prepared to leave her over a month ago; I was tired of her lies.

I didn't intend to find a mature lady friend, again but I did

Something good from my time with Clara

 Granny Sex

Would I consider making love again?

My connection with the lady "claimed" to ive in Bristol is cut, she tried four times to contact me, after I blocked her on WhatsApp, but got nowhere.

Though that experience was nasty, it did have two good poinis. Firstly, by addin my profile to to Granny Datung apps, I found older ladies find me attractive, and I made friends with a lady in Oxfordshire, who wishes to meet me

Grannies Friend

 Granny Sex 

Sex in the 70s 

This month, to my delight, I have been offered the possibility of sex with two grannies, not at the same time.

One lady "claims" to live in Bristol, but as she keeps refusing to meet me, I have my doubts on this subject, Clara is younger than me as she is 57. The other lady, Svitlana, lives in Oxfordshire, and is a couple years older than me at 74. Though Oxfordshire is 100 miles away, it is easy to reach by train, I'd rather travel 100 miles knowing I will meet the lady, than 3 miles thinking she'll give me another excuse. Clara knows I don't trust her, and she is on borrowed time as August is getting closer.

I also have the offer of sex with a young lady in her 30s from Taunton, Somerset, who visits friends in Bedminster each weekend.

I only met Svitlana as I was exploring, for my benefit, the opinion of ladies on how they see me, as I never considered myself attractive

Aftershock

 Its a hot Saturn's Day 

My Fantasy 

After an early morning discussion over our friendship / relationship status, and my concerns about us. My friend, Clara, and I have decided we're going ahead together as a couple.

This is one of my fantasies. Clara, is a very attractive, to me, mature friend, who has said she wants to be my lover. As the decision is Clara's, I am pleased to be able to please her, I would not have asked

A strange dynamic

 The Allure of the Older Lady

                                                         Sugar Daddy

With the walks I go on from where I live in Hartcliffe, to my friend, Clara, who lives in Whitchurch, Bristol, Clara comments (jokingly) that I look 21.

This raises an interesting situation for me.

While I fantasised about making love to an older lady, when the opportunity was reversed recently, I didn't consider being the object of being the subject of sexual fascination for young girls

The closest I wish to get to going Tropical

 Tropico

My dream vacation

I have never been the type of person who would either sit by a pool, or sit on the beach for a vacation.

My dream vacation for years was to visit Masada, Isreal, not for a religious reason, I was interested in the fort as military history is a topic I am interested in. Some time ago, I realised my health issues crossed the site of my list, I would have liked to visit India, the state is full of fascinating history, and cultures.

My dream vacation now, would be to take my friend, Clara, on a romantic trip to Yorkshire. I would avoid York, though.